Invitations.

I'm getting married the week before you. We are planning on sending them out around January 20.

View Quoted Comment So either last week of January or first week of February would be good ?

6-8 weeks in advance.

The rule is 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding.

6-8 weeks before the big day, so you're looking at early to mid February.

View Quoted Comment Yeah. Theres some 6-8 week rule. But I can't wait any longer!

We're getting married on the same day! Ours will be going out at the end of the month due to a large n UK number of out of towners

I’m getting married April 18 and we’re mailing ours out around January 13 week! Ours is a “destination” since it’s about 3-4 hours away from our people.

Also, by the way.. there’s no “rule” lol
Everybody sends there’s out anywhere between 6-12 weeks really.

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I mean, there is a rule, and that's because people can forget pretty easily if you send them too far in advance. The rule obviously changes for those having destination weddings/have a large number of guests coming from out of town (but that usually just requires an earlier save the date). Wedding etiquette exists for a reason--mostly because of tried-and-true methods (and trial-and-error that have resulted in miscommunications or worse). It's just so much safer and easier to stick with the 6-8 weeks thing.

View Quoted Comment There’s so many ways you can do things now. So it’s entirely up to you. Between 6-12 weeks, depending on circumstances is completely fine!

Getting married the same day and I'm mailing mine the first week of February.

Late January/early February?

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Again, case-by-case basis on everything. But the main way to adjust to a destination wedding is to send out early save-the-dates... and then wedding invites 6-8 weeks in advance. People forget, they have other plans come up, etc. I knew a woman once who sent out invites 13 weeks ahead of time and had 30 guests who'd RSVP'd "yes" cancel right before the wedding due to a number of different circumstances. The whole point is to give your invites and final guest list a fighting chance... hence the rule.

There are reasons the guidelines exist -- mostly because, in most cases, they work! Can you do whatever you want? Of course, but read past posts and you'll come to see just because a couple wants to "be super organized/plan ahead/whatever" does NOT mean guests will comply. The risk of sending out too early is that guests put the invitation aside thinking, "it's January; how do I know what I'll be doing in April????" and forget about it. Yes, to the couple planning the wedding, it's the most important thing, but for many guests, it's not that big of a deal and people often can't guarantee their work schedules, etc., months in advance. Those who put it aside may well forget about it and not RSVP at all. Also, as others have mentioned, if sent too early, some guests might go ahead and reply "yes," but then as the date gets closer realize they can't make it and change their response. If it's a destination wedding and/or involves significant travel, a save-the-date, sent 6-8 months in advance can help guests plan ahead, but they still get an invitation in the "normal" timeframe. Honestly? Invitations sent 6-10 weeks before the wedding date, as almost all etiquette books suggest, work great. Set the RSVP date 7-14 days before the final numbers are due, and the couple should have plenty of time to follow up with those who do not respond. Daughter's wedding was mid-January, with the first guarantees due on January 4. Despite all the concerns couples post on this site about "avoiding the holiday rush," she sent invitations 8 weeks in advance, which was Thanksgiving week. On the RSVP date, which was Christmas (it was memorable!), she had responses from all but 10 guests -- representing 3 households. It took 2 minutes to send a follow-up email/text, and within 3 days of the RSVP date, she had 100% of her responses -- still about 6 days before her final deadline. She had zero no-shows or changes -- probably because guests' plans were pretty well set before they RSVP'd. People on this site complain about "rules" they don't like/agree with, but a lot of times those rules actually work. Good luck!

Im sending mine about 9 weeks out so that I have time to account for whomever doesnt respond in my timeline before I have to get on the road to drive to the midwest. Take into account your travel plans and timelines as well. Sk called "rules" only get you so far with this planning stuff

We have the same wedding date! I am sending out my invites next week BUT I also need the RSVP count by mid-February. If you don't need numbers until March, you can probably hold off a bit. I also recommend leaving yourself a couple buffer days before your deadline so you can contact missing RSVPs