I'm conflicted on whether I should invite my ex- best friend. We have so much history together and we were always there for each other at our lowest points and our highest. We grew up together in church, but she became my best friend in high school and we remained together for 7 years after that. She was there for me when an ex-boyfriend cheated on me and I was going through depression, and I was there for her when she went through a horrible break-up and when she caught her dad cheating, and I always had her over in my house and she was just another member of our family, so imagine how close we were. But we became distant over time, After we graduated community college, she moved 3 hours away to continue studying and I stayed at the university close by. I also started dating my boyfriend, so I was always with him. When she came down to visit a group of us went to hang out, and the first thing she told me was that he and I were not going to last. I was really hurt by that because I really love him, but I didn't want her words to affect my relationship with my bf, so I brushed it off and I still talked to her. Its been 2 years now that I've been with him and 2 years that she and I haven't really talked like we used to. However, she does come to our church during her vacation time but never lets me know when she's in town, and she spends a lot of time with people who have said a lot of horrible things about me. When I see her every now-and-then, I say hi to her and she says hi back but it feels as if I'm forcing it out of her. In the past years, even though we haven't talked, I've never forgotten to buy her a gift for Christmas, her birthday, or when I go on a trip, but I've noticed that she stopped buying me things. I'm really not a vain person, but she would buy or make gifts that were very meaningful to our relationship. And last year, she only sent me a birthday text on my birthday.
I don't want to believe that she's over me, and I told her many years ago, before I met my bf, that she would be my maid of honor. and she was so happy, but all this stuff happened and now I'm convinced that our bond is not there anymore. My sisters are still trying to persuade me to not even invite her. I feel that she's hurt that I'm with my bf, but I'm not sure if I should try to reach out to her, or if she would even care. Part of me says that she was my friend for that part of my life and I should move on, let things die out and not invite her, but part of me says that she deserves an invitation since she was there for me through the ups and downs in my life.
I really need advice.
