Invite out-of-towners to Bridal Shower

I personally only had locals invited to my shower.

I invited out of towners fully expecting them to decline (some of my bridesmaids and cousins were out of town). One actually did come, the rest declined. But then knowing they were important to me and I wanted them there was the purpose 😁

If you want them there, you can invite them. I would just prepare for most out of town guests to decline a shower invite.

I am torn on this as well. A majority of my friends live out of state and I can’t decide if they should be on the list. 2 are only like 90 minutes away so they will be on the list, but the other 8 live at least 6-12 hours away. I asked my sisters (who are throwing the shower with the other bridesmaids) and FH and they all said put them on the list and let them make the decision. I feel like I will most likely do that and message them after invites go out saying something like please do not feel obligated to come, it’s such a long distance for you to have to travel twice.

I invited out of towners but I fully expect them to decline. I think they still appreciate receiving an invitation though. I don't think it hurts to invite them!

I invited out-of-towners because my mom, step mom, sisters, a good friend their ALL out of town.

Invite family you're close to, but from past experiences, I get really annoyed when I'm invited to a shower for a friend 6+ hours away. It feels like the person is just asking for another gift, since that's what a shower is.

The only out-of-towners I'm inviting are my FMIL, matron of honor (my sister), and bridesmaids (2 FSILs & college best friend). I coordinated the date with my FMIL to let my sister know the best date. Everyone else on the invite list lives within 1 hour. I'm not inviting any other out-of-town friends.

I got invited to a college friend's shower several years ago. It was ~4 hours away and on a Sunday afternoon, so needless to say, I didn't go!

Typically it's only locals that are also invited to the wedding.

Invite them. If they can’t attend, then they will decline.

I invited out of towners and was fully prepared for declines but wanted to let them know they were welcome

I also suggest you leave it up to them. I would be completely offended if I was written off by the host because of distance. Let them make their own decision, and they will send a gift if they decline. Especially closer family, I would never not invite them.

I invited out-of-town family members, but not out-of-town friends (except for my bridesmaids)! I knew my family wanted to be included in everything, but didn't want my friends to feel pressured to travel or get me a gift for the shower!

I only invited people in my state, unless they are immediate family of the bride/groom or bridesmaids!