Invite Oversea Guest to My wedding

Guests are always responsible for their own travel arrangements. It is never the responsibility of the couple to provide airfare, lodging or taxis.

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Will you tell them in the wedding card or personal message that i only paid for their stay?

View Quoted Comment What specifically are you paying for beyond food and beverages at the reception per guest? As the bride, you do not need to pay for any part of their stay. They pay for all of that. They pay for everything. The only expense you and fiancé pay is the reception food and drink for each guest. You don’t say anything about it because it’s common knowledge that guests pay for themselves, unless you belong to a culture where the couple pays. But if you decide to pay extra, which is not wise on a limited budget that must cover other more important expenses such as the reception itself, then you communicate that with the guest by phone or however you normally talk in a regular private conversation. Not a card.

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Thank you for your advice !

Check with elders what is the culture. The other poster is talking about American culture for American guests where everyone is left to fend for themselves. But for many other cultures, the couple is expected to pay travel expenses or at least help plan travel details, lodging, commute, etc. It would be particularly gracious to pay for older family members. Always pick up guests from the airport and welcome them with food. Consider hosting them in your home if hotels are too expensive for you.

Also note, that in some cultures, if you cannot afford these expenses, you should not send invitations at all. This creates an undue burden for them and would cause them to lose face if they have to admit they cannot afford the expense.

All in all, be cautious. You and your partner must decide what is most important: having these guests attend a smaller budget wedding, or having a bigger budget wedding without them.