Our max is 200 and our list has hit 217 so I have to make some cuts. There is a lot of extended family from my moms side that my aunt thinks we need to include. We have a large family tree and they are very traditional with the whole “you must invite the WHOLE family”. My mom passed away back in 2012 and my aunt has really stepped in and taken on some of her role with the whole wedding planning and reaching out to me and helping pay for parts of the wedding. It’s a true blessing and we are SO grateful! But I need to make some cuts! Is it bad to only invite some of our extended family who were around when I was a kid? Some of their aunts and uncles were not really around me as a kid and I don’t really know them and definitely am not close to them.
One family didn’t invite me to their kids wedding, and I am definitely not mad about that (I wouldn’t have gone anyways) and my aunt thinks that was crazy we didn’t get invited but I’m not at all close with them so I wasn’t surprised! These are some people I would cut from the list but they have soooooo many brothers and sisters and only some of them I actually know. And by “know” I mean I saw them around when I was a kid, but I’ve grown up since then and they have not been any part of my life. I have no Ill will toward this and I’m the type of person who would be happy to see any family member I’m related to, but I really don’t see the need to invite them.
Is it faux pas to invite only some of my extended family and not all? What would y’all do?