Invite to Bachelorette

Personally my vote would be to just stick to the bridesmaids. I had 5 bridesmaids in my party and 4 were able to show. I think we had a really good time with just us together.


Also I see you’re thinking of making it a weekend. In that case I would definitely stick to just the bridesmaids as that would be a lot to ask of someone who is not in the wedding party. We have a couple friend who got married recently and the guy decided he wanted to extend the bachelor party invitation to more than just groomsmen. It was a nice gesture, but it ended up putting my husband on the hook for splitting a huge dinner bill even though one guy ordered a bunch of sides without asking everyone, the hotel they wanted everyone at was so expensive that my husband and our close friend could only reasonably do one night out of the weekend, and lots of people’s interest in activities clashed. 😬 In all, quite the chaotic bachelor party.

Worry less about what they want and more about what YOU want! What would make it the most fun and comfortable for you? Personally, I kept mine to my bridesmaids as they were all my bffs, and I figured once I branched out into our larger social circle I’d have less fun because I’d be more preoccupied making sure everyone else had a good time and got along, and maybe a little less free to just let loose and be totally me. I had the best time with my very dearest friends. The smaller crowd made it easier to coordinate too haha

For a weekend long bachelorette party, I would stick with just your six bridesmaids. The more people you have to organize (and opinions you have to hear), the more difficult things become. Also, if you plan on making restaurant reservations, many establishments start charging minimums or having limited menu selections or making you pay for a private room once you get to a certain number of people (usually 8-12). It will probably be a lot more fun, and a lot less stress, to just stick with your BMs. Plus, then you can actually spend quality time with each person, and not feel like you are getting pulled in all directions.

Hey I’ve been in a weekend bachelorette as a bridesmaid- we were together as bridal party only from Fri through sat afternoon, then Saturday evening other friends of the bride came out for one night.


You could invite fiancé’s friends wives to one dinner / one evening out / or just one event (maybe spa or brunch or shower… whatever you all decide to do). Have your MOH or a bridesmaid handle that communication & restaurant reservations- maybe also have the bridesmaid tell the guests that they will need to bring cash or card for their own bill / tab (there’s probably a much nicer way to say this, but you get the drift). This is to address the good point raised by Erin.
And yes it’s true you may need a private room if you go over a certain number of guests, but that’s pretty common/easy & can be fun - it gives your bridal party a chance to decorate the space, bring balloons, play silly games in a private space, etc.