Invite to Reception?

Following because I'm wondering about the officiant?

I would definitely invite the officiant. Not the MUA or hair stylist.

I do not plan to invite the MUA or hairstylist to the reception. However, I had no idea what to do with the officiant as Soon2bMrsP mentioned. Will have to do some research on the etiquette rules about that. Who will he talk to or sit with??? :/ LOL!

Don't invite anyone that you otherwise wouldn't invite if they weren't your vendor. I would not invite the other hairdresser or the MUA. They don't expect to be invited and it would probably put them in an awkward position if they were.

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Found this online:

Even if you don’t know your officiant well—say you recently employed them to lead your interfaith ceremony or you’re having a destination wedding and won’t meet them until you arrive—there’s no graceful way not to invite them. Some people consider only asking their officiant to cocktail hour, but do you really want to ask the person who just married you to leave before dinner (especially if the festivities are taking place at the same site)?

That said, your officiant is most likely accustomed to receiving reception invites and either politely declining or only staying briefly for cocktails to offer you congratulations one last time. This is particularly common if you just met your officiant, and they don’t share a special bond with your family. It’s also possible that even if you want them to stay, they’ll need to go perform another ceremony. If they do accept the invite, you should assume they’ll stick around for the meal, and seat them at a table with close relatives, your parents or grandparents.

Luckily, our officiant is our Pastor. We had planned on him being included in the reception anyways. However, I think it is within good etiquette to include the officiant in the reception.

View Quoted Comment Ty,we were supposed to have his mom but she wants to counsel us and fiance feels that this is a conflict of interest and she will create problems that we don't have..so I am looking for someone now

None of the people mentioned above will be at my reception. My officiant has another wedding to do.

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We were going to have someone in our family do it too, but it didn't work out. I found a couple of people on wedding wire that I am going to chat with. It's just awkward to invite them if you don't even know them...let along sit them with close family as the article indicates. I do like the idea of having them at cocktail hour though, that is nice to do. Is it wrong that I am crossing my fingers that he will have another wedding to go to?? :/

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Yes, you are lucky that your officiant is your Pastor. Ours will be someone that we found on this site, so it's a little awkward when it comes to seating. We will figure it out though.

View Quoted Comment Lol, i was thinking this same thing-that they leave after cocktail hour..i found someone on Wedding Wire last night that I want to reach out too

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Lol! Let's hope they have other weddings to go to. Although, my wedding starts at 6:30pm so it isn't looking great for me!

View Quoted Comment Lol,I would just hope that they feel uncomfortable but people like to stay for a free meal

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Sigh, that's what I am afraid of. I will sit him at my FH's family's table! LOL! They aren't exactly a lively bunch so he will be less offended if I sit him at my crazy families table.

View Quoted Comment Lol,I am not even there yet

Does your venue offer “vendor” meals? Ours did. Vendors weren’t considered part of the guest count. They weren’t offered the same meal (more like sandwiches), and their meals cost less. I’m not sure the rule but it’s something like if they work 4 hours they should be offered one. For our local reception, our band & impersonator had a 2 hr RT drive and they had a big role so we offered them a meal (and it was dinner time), our photographer & our hired hostess/actress. But not MUA, etc.

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No, our venue is location only. We are bringing in our own vendors. It's going to be buffet style, so I plan on inviting all vendors that will be at the reception to eat. I think I would feel rude otherwise, lol. Luckily our caterer is a family member that owns her own company, so we are getting a deal.

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Got it. That's nice!

You can put a table or two in another/private area for the vendors if you wish. Our band appreciated a break and a little "down time" in between their sets by eating in the venue's break room.

View Quoted Comment The DJ videographer and photographer you have to add for meal count.

MUA and Hairstylist are family! But if they weren’t I don’t believe they would be invited.