Invite yourself

I always thought I would be the person that would just shrug off these people that invite themselves... but it's so hard! People try to invite themselves to my wedding and I honestly feel bad that I am not sending them an invite. They make it so obvious that they really want to come, but I just can't extend the invite to certain people and not others that are in their same category (very distant relatives, friends of family etc.)

If my venue and catering did not charge per person or I had an unlimited budget I might not be so offended. However, the people asking known both my FH and I are students so we are not in that situation.

My husband's cousins heard we were getting married and we were told they immediately started talking about the wedding and how they need to buy dresses, find a MUA, and how we better have an open bar.... but they weren't invited. It is super annoying!

The nerve of some people. Ugh!

I'm so worried this will happen to us because of people posting things about our wedding on social media without my permission. Or automatically assuming they will get an invite and start making travel plans, buying wedding outfits, etc., long before the invitations are getting sent out. So rude.

Someone invited them self to my wedding, so I reluctantly sent an invitation. RSVP came back no. Like bish if you're going to demand an invite, at least commit to your rudeness! Lol

@FutureMrs2017 omg I DIIIIIIIE hahahaha :'D

I haven't had this happen yet but it's still early in the process. It definitely won't be fun if it happens because I hate being put in that kind of situation where I have to potentially hurt someone's feelings.

My SIL sent an invite to the best man addressed to him, his wife and family, meaning their three children. His wife thought this meant their family and immediately invited her parents and siblings as well that my brother and SIL barely knew.

Super weary about posting anything on FB now. We updated the "life event" and the worse offender, someone whom I have not spoken to in years, actually sent me her address so I can send her an invite- and she sent it "for your convenience".

SO. MUCH. NOPE>

Ha @Mary S that is hilarious! Unfortunate. And hilarious!

@FutureMrs2017, maybe you should send her a thank you for not coming. LOL

UGH! So far we havent dealt w that situation, but we are keeping the wedding "quiet" (it's not on FB or other social media, except here). Who ever got invited knows we only want people that mean something to us. SO, it pretty much all family or extremely close friend.

I used to be surprised by these posts as well since we didn't know anyone IRL that went through this but then it happened to us. We didn't send them an invite or ever even come close to making an expection but 2 different people (plus their plus ones so 4 total) tried for months to guilt trip us into inviting them. Thankfully H and I were on the same page and he shut them down each time. Still, the nerve of these people.

We have had to add 2 unexpected guests. I can't really say they weren't invited. The first is my cousin's girlfriend. My cousin lives on a tiny Hawaiian island and I never expected him to be able to come to my upstate NY second wedding. If he is making it all this way he sure as hell can bring his girlfriend (and if I'd known about her she would have gotten the invite too!) The second is my uncle's mother. My aunt and uncle are bringing her to the wedding as she is 90+ years old and has dementia. It probably would not be a good idea to leave her on her own in Virginia where they live or even at the hotel. I also am a social worker in subsidized senior housing. Many of the residents have asked if they are invited and some have given me the "you'd better invite me." That is not going to happen!

This happens so often! I have received numerous messages and seen people in public asking where their invite is. People dont realize that a wedding isnt something you invite everyone you know to. I am waiting to receive an RSVP with names on it of people I didnt invite. I have been posting subliminals on facebook advising people not to try me during the wedding process, so I am hoping they will listen. A wedding is not a free for all and most people dont realize this.

Ugh, I seriously hate this. The worst is when they outright ask in front of a group of people "where's MY invite?" "Am I invited?" or they make it seem like they already have been invited "I can't wait! It's going to be so much fun!" Especially when they didn't give two craps about you before you were planning a wedding.

I only had 1 person do this to me, but I was going to invite them anyway. So in my case I think we are close enough that she knew she'd be invited.

A former coworker of mine just posted on FB about finding her wedding venue and all I could think was "Don't post about the wedding!"...

I've had the same presumptuous bish call both me and my FH out on FB in the last week, "Well I guess I'm not invited to your wedding..." No, no you are not, because you are rude and don't know how to behave in polite company. Also, I'm not sure our alcohol budget is high enough to support your alcoholic ways.

I feel so much better for having let that out.

If it was my best friend or my grandmother who said that I'd laugh and go along with it but it is coming from adults. Who I don't know and my FH barely knows.

I think the worst part was my FH didn't see anything wrong with it.

I have a had a few people asking me wedding details and when they should expect an invite. I just politely tell them that we are keeping it small with family and a handful of very close friends. We are doing a bar crawl after the reception that anybody can come to.