Invite yourself

@lovecat I would die if someone did that! How awkward.

Don't do it

This and people asking if their kids are invited. One person who asked me even said "only our names were on the invitation." Yep, what do you think that means. No the kids aren't invited. I saw someone else make a post on facebook about people need to get their rsvps in and they had so many comments saying "are we invited?" and "didn't get an invite." I just shook my head.

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This always blows my mind!!! Who really has the nerve to do such things? What I have run into (already) people assuming they are in the wedding!! Ummmmmm look I know i was in your wedding FIVE YEARS AGO, but that does not mean you will be in mine! Also, no you shouldn't use my wedding as motivator to get in shape, you can sit down & stop assuming things now!

Yikes.

Only happened once so far, uncle invited his kids and their spouses. Just added a +4 to the RSVP. As I told my mom, if I had wanted them there they would have been invited in the 1st place.

My MOH's Mother invited herself to ours... And no, we aren't that close.

My boss did this awkward, "oh congratulations I can't wait to drink a toast to you at your wedding" thing and I did a tiny little doubletake and he immediately picked up on it and awkwardly said, "well, if I'm even invited." He's not invited. I adore him and he's a great boss but my wedding is for me, FI and our immediate families. I don't think people mean badly it's just for some, big sprawling 300 people weddings are all they know and grew up with

I've ended up inviting a few people because of this. I've also had several people who assumed they would be invited for whatever reason and were offended that they weren't. I had a coworker find out that she wasn't invited to my bridal shower and announced loudly to another coworker in front of me and a whole group of people how it's ok even though she was hurt by it. And she talked about how she would be the bigger person and just give me a gift despite not being invited. Because that's the right thing to do or whatever. She went on about it the whole day. (She never did give me a gift, by the way. Just saying.)

I haven't had to deal with it personally but someone kept trying to find out if she was invited through a mutual friend. We were friends all through school but drifted in college and after. She's a very difficult person to handle because she is loud, rude, has no filter, and needs to be the center of attention. I didn't see her for a year and then I got engaged she saw another friend who I had told post about it so she took their post and reposted about how her BFF was getting married. She would then ask this friend about my wedding plans and try to get information from her (never asking me) and didn't even notice when I unfriended her on FB and instagram until 6 months later. My friend keeps telling me about how she makes comments about when I will ask her to be a bridesmaid. Then it turned into she accepts if I don't ask her to be a bridesmaid since we don't see each other much. The latest was when my friend finally told her she wasn't invited to the wedding after telling her countless times to talk to me about it but she never did and my friend got tired of it so she just told her to not expect an invite. I feel guilty because apparently she is blindsided and thought we were good friends but I'm not going to invite someone just because we grew up together

Had a random cousin ask my MIL to be invited... was not happy about that one, because MIL insisted. So we invited said random cousin (that I've never even met) and they declined. WTF.

My dad and I work on different areas of the same company (He's in sales and I'm in construction) and we usually carpool from home to work, so... one morning he tells me a coworker (that doesn't even work in either division, but a third one, therefore neither of us has much interaction INSIDE of work with her) told him we could have his 5 year old son be our RB!!... uhm... HELLO!!, I don't even KNEW you had a son!!

I have a co-worker who actually stopped talking to me as of yesterday because she's not invited. Oh well it's not about her.

I seriously never thought this would happen to me but it did a couple times. We are having a very small DW. FH and I both did not want his grandma to be invited because she's never supported our relationship and always tells FH to leave me. (You'd think she wouldn't want to come if she doesn't like me) well this past weekend we were at FMIL for a BBQ and his grandma starts saying where's my invited? FH calmly explained she wasn't invited and it's very small but everyone is invited to the reception back in our home town. Well she starts getting super pissed and screaming "IM YOUR GRANDMA!!!!" (I don't care if you're the president of the United States, if you don't support our marriage, you aren't coming) and then she throws her beer at us (yes she is a drunk unfortunately) and says that she's going to hurt both of us then gets in her car and DRIVES home.