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Just Said Yes October 2018

Invites / We are already married?

Jennifer, on December 20, 2017 at 3:07 PM

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We are doing a Courthouse wedding in one week for financial reasons with our parents and wedding party in attendance. Our big official "wedding" will be in October. We are going to tell our immediate families and close friends that we got married already but how do we or do we change the invites?...
We are doing a Courthouse wedding in one week for financial reasons with our parents and wedding party in attendance. Our big official "wedding" will be in October. We are going to tell our immediate families and close friends that we got married already but how do we or do we change the invites? Concerned that some will be "put off" by our actions (yes then they should not attend) but some have mentioned that a quick announcement should be made at the "wedding" in October to those in attendance so they understand. Thoughts or ideas? The October wedding is for me to have my Father give me away and walk me down the aisle. Something very special that we don't want to miss. And of course the party! It will be around 170pp.
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    Just Said Yes June 2023
    Hannah ·
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    I got married at the courthouse because he was leaving for the military so a lot of people dont even know we have gotten married. we are having a wedding because even tho most know, not everyone else does. im not calling it my renewal or anything. Keeping it plain and simple its gonna be wedding for me. It's your choice what you call it. ours was very last minute and the only people who saw us get hitched was my mom and dad and not his. so you do you boo!!

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    Jacks ·
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    I would be extremely careful about having an event where only some people know that you're married. It feels misleading to those that don't, and they may feel upset about that. My suggestion is to be authentic about already being married.

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  • Charlotte
    Dedicated June 2022
    Charlotte ·
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    I know a few people who are planning to do the same thing. As a guest I don't care. You do you!

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    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Jessica ·
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    I can not believe the amount of negativity in these comments. Do what YOU feel is right for you and your groom.
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  • SandyZV
    Dedicated June 2023
    SandyZV ·
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    There is no negativity. Don't lie to people. Period. That is basic manners 101.

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    CM ·
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    OP got married over five years ago. I don't think she needs advice at this point. But once you invite and involve other people it is every bit their business. People lie because they don't want to risk guests not prioritizing "just" a celebration. A celebration of marriage is perfectly fine. I've been to many. Just call it what it is and don't deceive the people who care about you.

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