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Just Said Yes May 2024

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Madison, on February 1, 2024 at 10:55 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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Hi all,
We are getting married the end of May.
We have a tight guest list and have unfortunately had to cut back on a lot of people / kids due to the price of our venue / pp. We sent out save the dates in September, which had our wedding website listed.
In our wedding website we have the FAQ that we are having no children as well as no plus ones.
I have had multiple- I mean multiple (5+) ask if they can bring their new boyfriend, grandkids etc. I have responded politely to some of the same people more than once already that unfortunately no due to space and budget.
I do not know how to correctly tell them absolutely the hell not any other way than that now. We send out invitations next month (and I plan on putting ONLY the names that are invited) and I am worried that we are going to have multiple random people show up to our wedding we will have to pay for. I honestly at this point want to ask them to just not come if they don’t respect us- but know that’s not proper since we already sent them a save the date. Any advice on how to stop people from rudely asking if so and so can come?

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Latest activity by Cece, on February 1, 2024 at 5:01 PM

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Lisa · on February 1, 2024 at 11:35 AM
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When people ask if they can bring someone with them, you could respond with something along the lines of, "No. Due to limited venue capacity, we are unfortunately unable to accommodate additional guests other than those listed on the invitation. We hope you can still make it, but we understand if that changes your decision to attend." Also, on your invitations, you might want to add a line that says something like, "We have reserved __ seats in your honor."

One thing to keep in mind is that people in relationships should be invited with their significant other. Significant others are not considered plus ones - plus ones would be for truly single guests. Also, anyone who received a Save The Date should still get an invitation.
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Jacks · on February 1, 2024 at 12:19 PM
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Everything that Lisa said.
On the invitation put only the names of those invited. Then in the RSVP line say:
__2__ seats have been reserved in your honour. _____ attending
If they write in more people than 2 you'll need to call and say that you cannot accommodate anyone other than those invited. Any extra people will not be seated at the reception and will need to leave, children included. You don't even need to give excuses, because people will find "solutions" like kids on laps etc. "No" is a complete sentence. If they threaten not to come, a simple "you'll be missed" will be fine.
Everyone that received a STD must receive a formal invitation, and people need to be invited with their partners. Anyone in a relationship needs to be invited with their significant other.
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Cece · on February 1, 2024 at 5:01 PM
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Totally agree with all of this. You could also say that you are at capacity with the venue, and adding more people would be against fire code. So unfortunately, no additional people will be permitted into the building. Hopefully that would get the message across that if you show up with additional people they will be turned away at the door, and would prevent them from trying.
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