Invites

We’re going through something similar. Inviting guests is always a slippery slope, because once you invite one aunt/uncle, you have to invite the rest of them + their husband/wives, and if you’re like us, have to have to awkward conversation that their children (anyone under 21) aren’t allowed....etc, etc.
We both have relatively large families, but are only “close” with a handful of Aunts/Uncles. And both of our mother’s nearly flipped when we said we weren’t inviting every single one of them. Keep in mind, my FH & I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves - is your father putting any $ down for your celebration? If he is, and if it’s significant, you may have to give him his way.
Here’s our trick: We’re having a destination wedding, which practically guarantees that many will “regretfully decline”.

You don’t have to invite anyone to your wedding that you don’t want there.

View Quoted Comment I'm only inviting one uncle on my mom's side because he is my godfather and also is officiating the wedding, so does that get me off the hook of inviting the others?

Nope. In fact, unless you’re supper close to one of them, it would probably be best not to invite any of them or the uninvited will get their feelings hurt.


We had a micro DW with 15 guests so no aunts or uncles were invited either. We sent them a marriage announcement photo after.

I feel like this has been a big topic here kately but imma stay with what I always answer- it's your wedding! Invite who you want there, not who you feel like you have to!