Inviting an ex-bff??

I wouldn't invite. Drama is not needed. Congratulations on your special day!

Its tough but if there is no relation and she has not reached out no! Friends in common doesnt matter wedding is for your near and dear

Honestly, regardless of what you used to talk about, if this person isn't someone you can't picture your day without, I wouldn't send an invitation. People grow apart as they get older and friendships come and go, especially if it "ended weirdly," don't open that can of worms again. Also, weddings are expensive enough, don't treat your guest list as a friend/family reunion, if they're not in your life now, save your money.

No.
Dont invite people you are no longer friends with.

My best friend of a total of 13 years and I did not speak for a year and a half. I was in the same boat, as I planned I really couldnt see myself not having her there. I reached out to her and just let her know how i felt about what happened, how I feel now, etc. We have both apologized and reclaimed that our friendship was worth having and shes now in my bridal party. I dont regret it.

You should send invites based on your current relationship. Especially because things ended not on good terms, there may be a chance they wouldn't expect. Relationships change and people change and who you knew then in high school may not be who you both are today. Weddings are not the time to repair friendships. If you want to repair the relationship ask her out to dinner and talk then you can decide if your friendship is still intact or something you need to forget.

I had a similar situation. I swallowed my pride to make up with her, and now back to being best friends- it's as if nothing ever happened. This was back in January, and now she's a bridesmaid and I don't regret anything. I'm so glad I did it.

I'd recommend trying to make amends first, and see how it goes before just inviting her.

Nope nope nope.

If its awkward to just simply hang out with people in common, I would not invite her. She seems to be aware of the situation and thus I would assume not find it surprising.

Don't invite her. Why invite someone you haven't spoken to in a year? If I was that friend and we had not communicated in a year I'd see it as a hope for more gifts if the friendship wasn't reconciled before the invite came.

That sucks I had a similar situation. She was one of my best friends from around age 13 to age 19 or so. Had the same circle of friends. She started dating someone and I don't know if this was his doing or not but she really started to drift apart from all of her friends and we rarely saw anything of each other. They mostly hang out with couples, but honestly they're not very social anymore in general. A few years later they ended up getting married and myself and our mutual friends (who she really didn't hang out with anymore) were invited but it felt like more of a courtesy invite. Since the wedding, which was about 2.5 years ago, I've reached out to her and told her we should hang out but I only get the "yeah that would be cool" response but she never makes any moves. Then when she found out I was engaged she got all excited because it was like I was included in her special married people club now, I don't know. Still, I've made efforts to hang out and still nothing. She's not on my guest list because I've tried and failed to reconnect and it she doesn't seem to be bothered either way. I have felt really bad about it because 1) I was invited to her wedding and 2) we used to be so close. Yet my bridal party and family have reassured me that I made the right decision. You simply can't invite everyone.

If she already got a save the date and is expecting a wedding invite I'd swallow my pride and still invite her. However, if you never sent her a save the date and are just going back and forth on if you should invite her I wouldn't.

No reason to invite her

I personally wouldn't invite anyone that you don't genuinely want there. (thanks to some awesome advice on WW I've gotten better with our guest list in terms of this).

If you can't picture your wedding day without them, invite them. But if you can picture them being absent and you're fine with it, don't invite them. You don't need any drama on your wedding day!

So... i found myself in a similar situation.. childhood best friend, grew up together, i was in her wedding, and we have drifted with in the last 5 years.. i did not end up inviting her, because i decided i didnt want to hear her say no.. that was just me! I would say go with your heart on that one!

If you actually want to rekindle the relationship, and see if you can get past your differences and start seeing each other regularly as friends after your marriage, invite her. Just to be polite, NO.

I definitely would not include her. If you two were in the process of rekindling your friendship, then I'd say heck yes invite her, but if you two are still kind of on the outs and it's awkward, then definitely don't invite her.

We invited a couple that we do not like to the wedding. The wife has been unkind to me and the husband enables it. We ended up inviting them as more of a "business decision" because we are stuck spending time with them at another wedding we are all attending. Not inviting them caused H a lot of anxiety and he was very concerned abut the social implications of not inviting them. We invited them, they accepted, and I regret inviting them. It irked me to have them there when they haven't been kind or supportive of our relationship. I left it up to H and wanted him to be comfortable with the decision. We had room, bit the bullet, and included them. Looking back, I was uncomfortable with them there and felt judged the whole time by them and I regret it.

Don't invite. You aren't friends anymore.

I really and honestly dont mean to be offensive here, so please dont take this the wrong way.

This is the 2nd or 3rd post I've seen in the last few says that was asking about a former friend, have not spoken to, should I/ shouldn't I?

In my honest and frank opinion, weddings are a hassle to go to ( most of the time ) and they're expensive, even as a plain ol' guest. Missing one (unless it's a wedding of a super close person) would not offend me.

People who LOVE you want to come and see this grand next step, people who LIKE you will attend with a smile, people you talk to at work would probably rather Netflix and chill in sweatpants, someone you're not close with...? Why bother?

Inviting someone you're estranged from, for whatever reason probably won't build the bridge you want it to.