Inviting co-workers to wedding??

Originally, I had my co-workers on my guest list, but then I lost my job. I got a new job before the wedding, but it was only about two months before the wedding so I didn't feel comfortable inviting my new co-workers which like you was only two people (my boss and one other). My husband invited a couple of his co-workers, but only one attended with his girlfriend. Our wedding was also four hours from where we live/work so I was surprised any attended.

I am really on the fence. Similar situation to you with only the 3 of us in the office. For me, both my coworkers are technically my 'boss' (one is my supervisor and the other is our department head). None of us hang out outside work but we are very close when we are in the office together.


I am leaning towards inviting them. It would only be 4 extra people (one has a SO and the other I would give a +1) and I know they would appreciate the invite even if they couldn't attend. If they do both come to the wedding then we will actually be closing the office for the day since I am getting married on a Tuesday.

I’m inviting several but I do see some after work and we are all really chummy. Plus we’ve been working together for 12 years.
But lots of people don’t invite co workers at all!

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I think I will too. In such a tightknit work environment I’d probably feel bad if I didn’t invite them. Mind you, the colleague I am closer to I am confident will come, my boss likely too, though I need to confirm his wife’s name (in the year I’ve worked with him I’ve never actually heard him expressly say her name other than ‘my wife’) so that will probably assist in gauging interest.

I’m only inviting one coworker and his fiancée since we hang out regularly outside of work. Other than that I’m not inviting anyone else from my team.

No. Only invite those you socialize with outside of working hours. But don’t invite anyone you can’t imagine the day without, and especially don’t invite anyone out of obligation to make other people happy. They will likely host a shower for you because they want to share your happiness but none of them expect a wedding invitation.

I would invite your boss. It’s not a large office so it won’t add much to the cost and its a nice gesture.


Invited about 30 people from work along with their partners.

I'm not inviting any coworkers. I'm not close to any of mine, nor do I see them outside of work, so there's not a reason to invite them lol.

FH is close to a couple of people at work, but he doesn't see them a lot outside of work either, but he is considering inviting them. It's fine with me if he does though because we've see them often!

My CURRENT coworkers, I'm not inviting any...because I just started this job in December and we have been remote only since about 2 weeks ago, when we started transitioning to a few in office days a week. So I never actually met them when the guest list was created. However, for my last workplace, I had planned to invite my bosses, their spouses, and a few coworkers that I talked to and see regularly outside of work. My old boss is a very good friend of mine and she is actually officiating my wedding. I've worked in larger offices though, so nobody really felt left out if they didn't get invited.

I invited one coworker and my boss (out of about 6 ppl total) because I actually spent time with them frequently outside of work. If you're not friends outside of work I would say don't invite.

I invited no coworkers as I had just started a teaching position and knew no one. Never said I was getting married until I returned the following Tuesday! My hubby invited his boss and his wife. I would say if you socialize with them outside of work, go ahead. But keep wedding chatter down to avoid hurt feelings.

No. I’m not inviting coworkers because of the reason you named. I don’t do anything with them outside of work. So, they are acquaintances, our connection is superficial and based on proximity of working in the same office. My true friends are those who I do things with outside of work, who I regularly communicate on a personal level and who I have a deeper relationship with. Those are the people I want around on my wedding day. However, FH is inviting some of his coworkers because there are 3 that he actually hangs with as friends outside of work. So we aren’t having any “just because“ guests.

Don't ask my FH! 😂


He got a little overcarried away with inviting co-workers. He's truly friendly with about half of them (having lunch when they're in the office together, texting throughout the day/evening). The other half...well, he somehow got the idea that if he invited one half of his unit, he should invite the other half. 😬
Thankfully, we work for the same state agency and I've known some of the folks he invited even longer then he has (I've worked there longer), so it's not like a bunch of random people that I don't know. And we've had a fairly long engagement and 2 kids together so these are all people who been there through all of that.
Of my office, I've invited my boss and one other friend in our office and then some of coworkers from my last office who I chat with everyday (no lunches anymore because of covid) and text after hours, etc. They are people I discuss work, politics and parenting with all we have some pretty well established bonds now.

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Oh my god, my FH is the same way. He talks to so many people and texts/snapchats coworkers on a regular basis. I think really the only reason we don't hang out with them outside of work is because we both work two jobs and our homebodies otherwise. He's got like 20 people on his list, and I was like, buddy. Stop.

I will be inviting coworkers from my previous job because we did hang outside of the office a few times, but also it was a super close knit environment similar to what you described. I think it would be weird to have talked all about the wedding to my two coworkers and then not invite them, so I think you should, but only because you seem to be very friendly with them at work.

It would be different if it was more of a 'I'm passing by and making small talk for 15 minutes' compared to what seems to be pretty in depth conversations about life.

I invited everyone since i only have like a dozen ish coworkers and in reality i only really wanted to invite like 3/4 aha but that would have been weird to not invite the other 1/4 when there are just a dozen of em

View Quoted Comment Yeah I have just added them to our list! It wouldn’t be nice for me to invite the colleague I’m closer to and not my boss as well - I mean after all it is just two of them plus their partners. Thank you all for your feedback!