Inviting Co-workers to Your Wedding- Where do You Draw the Line?

We only invited co-workers that we saw socially outside of work/work functions. If you left your job tomorrow, would you have any relationship with any of these people? If so, invite them. If not, leave them off the list.

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I agree with Sarah - if you don't hang out outside of work and if you left the job tomorrow you wouldn't make a point to stay in touch (actually in touch, not facebook lol), then don't invite them

Do you socialize outside of work? If not, don’t feel obligated to invite them. But if you do, you must invite significant others as well

I would only invite people you hang out with outside of work

I agree with the previous comments. I work in a facility with around 100 people. I am only inviting 1 of them. I like tons of them, they are great work friends. But that's not the same as being my friend friend. My fiance is only inviting 2 coworkers.

Co-workers are tricky because if you don't hang out with them outside work you don't know what they are going to be like in social situations. They could end up doing anything at all. Also, you haven't known them for very long and so it could be difficult to ask them and then not others and it could create some difficulties between co-workers as well.

My FH and I are also attorneys. Our guest list is only 50, so we have very limited space. We have only invited those who we hang out with as a couple outside of work & those who have been mentors to both of us (we have 4 former professors). We also tried to narrow it down even further by choosing people with SO’s that we also know & are close to. Ultimately, our list is 50% attorney-friends & the rest are friends/family. I have been at my office for 3 yrs & I’m not inviting anyone from there because they don’t meet the criteria. While there may be a couple I would like to invite if we had more space, I’d prefer to have people there that have played a big role in both our lives as a couple. Thinking that way has made the choices much easier & I’m very happy with our guest list.

With your wedding nearly a year from now, I'd strongly consider not sending Save the Dates to any of your co-workers. As others mentioned, a lot can happen and there's really no reason to lock yourself in so early. Daughter and SIL sent STDs to family and close friends 8 months before their wedding, but did not send them to more casual friends and co-workers, who were at the time on the guest list. By the time they were ready to send invitations 6 months later, they decided to drop some of those people who they'd barely seen in favor of others -- including co-workers who they had become closer to. STDs are optional and definitely don't need to be sent to everyone.

There are some really good ideas on here for where to draw the line. I think finding ways to delay officially letting people know to save the date is the way to go (I am taking down these notes for when we get to this point). That way you can wait to give co-workers a save the date until you know there will be space. Also, people should understand that there is so much out of your control. Obviously you want everyone there, but you have to make the tough decisions.

Exactly what everyone says! If there are some you hangout with outside of work then invite them. However, just keep in mind that your other co workers may feel some type of way for not being invited. If you want to spare everyone's feelings then you don't have to invite either of them. That way if neither of them went then neither of them can really talk about your wedding since they weren't there.