Inviting everyone at work except one guy

I think you should invite him….it has the potential to make him feel more included and help him get out of his shell. He and his wife may be really great people. Not inviting him could make for some very awkward moments at work.

If you are inviting literally everyone else, I think you should invite him. Singling him out as the odd man out may make him feel super uncomfortable and upset if everyone else in the office is going. Normally, I would say only invite people who you really want there, but when it means excluding a single person, it just seems kind of mean. It doesn't sound like you don't like him. Rather that he's just a bit shy and quiet.

Definitely invite him. It will come across as playing favorites if you don’t. He can decline or attend on his own. Including him may help to bring him out of his shell.

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I fully agree with Hannah.

If you were inviting a small group from work it would have been fine, but if it is literally everyone save for this one person, you are singling him out and he will be sure to find out that he's the only one who has been excluded and that won't reflect well on you.

Thatis classic bad manners/ etiquette, to invite all members of a group but one, unless that person's behavior is offensive. ...In an office, either invite only those you already go out with outside of work, and their SO, or everybody.

Do you owe anyone an invite? No, of course not. But it is pretty bad manners to signal out one person at work when he hasn’t done anything other than be a quiet person.

I would invite him if you are inviting everyone else. Makes me think of school when someone is passing out birthday invitations and you being the only one not invited. It would be humiliating. If he is really that shy and awkward chances are he won't show up but it would make him feel good.. Have you met his wife? I wonder if she is outgoing and when he is around her he is able to open up.

As someone who is the quiet, keeps to themself co-worker, I’d be upset if everyone was invited except me. I agree with PP that he needs to be invited if everyone else is.

I agree with everyone else, extend an invitation to him

View Quoted Comment Ok that y’all so much!! I’ll invite him and his wife! I wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings and Id be happy if he came but not hurt if he didn’t!

Definitely invite him.

I agree with everyone else and would invite him for sure!

Agreed with all the others!