Inviting families with adult children.

Plus ones are by definition for single guests. If either of the women are dating/engaged/married their significant other needs to be invited, just as you would for any guest. If they are truly single you don't have to offer a plus one to any single guests, although it is kind to do so for wedding party members, anyone traveling a long distance, or anyone who doesn't know others who are invited.

Another detail that you didn't directly bring up but that I'd like to mention, every adult guest should be sent there own invitation. Adults are no longer a part of their parents social unit, but rather their own. If these women live with their parents then there would be three invitations going to the home. If the woman have significant others then you invite them by name on the appropriate invitation

If they have significant others, their SOs must be invited, but if they’re single it’s fine not to give them a plus one.

If they are over 18 they should really have their own invites. If they are in a relationship then you should give them the option to bring a plus one like you did with the other guests. If they are single then you don't need to give them a plus one.

I think it's okay as long as they are truly single. I had a few cases where my adult cousins still live with their parents. If they were over 18, I did send them their own invitation (to the same address as their parent's invite).

I think it’s reasonable to say serious significant others only. I saw a few on wedding invites I’ve gone to and didn’t bat an eye at it. It’s an intimate occasion, not a social one. They will live, or they can choose not to go.

View Quoted Comment How would you suggest defining what a serious significant other is? There isn't exactly a litmus test. That is why ANYONE who is in a relationship is invited with their significant other.

Also, weddings are absolutely social events. They may or may not be intimate ones.

View Quoted Comment What in the world.... how is a wedding ever not an intimate occasion? It’s a wedding.... ok whatever. Believe what you want.

You don’t define serious for other people. If it’s said, they will know. Let them use their own judgement. You can only do so much.

View Quoted Comment A wedding of 150 people isn't intimate, personal sure, but not intimate.

Given that invitations need to be addressed by name to those who are invited, you just invite any significant others. You don't give some wishy washy message which leaves your guests wondering if their significant other is welcome

View Quoted Comment Invite ANY significant other? Maybe at your wedding but not mine. And have faith in the intelligence of your guests. Geez. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Which significant others won't you invite? How will you decide who is worth the invitation? Time together? My sister and bill were engaged after a few months. Only engaged or married? My daughter and sil were together for nearly seven years before they were engaged. So how will you determine it?

I have a lot of faith in the intelligence of my friends and family, I also know that many people would be sensitive enough to be unsure if their significant other would be serious enough in my eyes. Don't leave things to question and name all significant others by name.

View Quoted Comment Sure...you sound like you have a lot of confidence in their intelligence lol. Or you just like controlling everything I’m not sure. Regardless you sound like you’re pretty set on your own opinion so what’s the point of this reply? Do whatever you wish.

View Quoted Comment I'm honestly just trying to help you from offending your guests. There are reasons etiquette rules exist, they aren't about being traditional, formal, stuffy, or controlling. They are about being kind, courteous, and honestly making everyone's lives simpler. But if you want to risk making thing confusing and offensive, go for it. Just know that the people you cause issues with are unlikely to say anything out of kindness to you

Right...that’s completely your opinion and quite frankly I think you’re offending them not me. Like I’ve said, what’s the point of replying to me? I honestly have no interest in what you have to say bc I grossly disagree with you. Please, just stop. Try your opinion on someone else.

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Why are you on this website replying if you don't want to be part of a discussion?

It's not controlling to address and invitation correctly. As a guest if I had received an invitation to a wedding when I was dating my husband and it was only addressed to me I would RSVP no. As a guest I'm not going to question why my SO wasn't included because that's rude. I would have wonder ed why my SO wasn't included on the invitation considering we were a social unit.

It has nothing to do with questioning someones intelligence and everything to do with being a good host.

View Quoted Comment How is properly addressing an invitation and inviting all significant others, regardless of how serious you might think the relationship is offensive? You have been really defensive but haven't answered any questions.