I would prefer a small wedding with the people who are important and close to me and my FH in attendance. With that in mind, our guest list is around 50 people: our immediate families, our close friends and their spouses, and each of my aunts and uncles. When I asked my parents for the addresses of the aunts and uncles so that I can send the save the dates, they started getting upset because certain cousins of mine weren't on my list. I gave them my reasons why, but they just don't understand. Here are all my reasons:
* I'm an introvert and having a small wedding with just the people I'm close to is very meaningful to me because I feel like I'd feel very uncomfortable and overwhelmed with more people.
* Of the cousins we're counting, that's 8 people. Then we have to roughly double that because they have spouses (who's names I don't know in most cases). Then some of them have kids, this isn't a child-free wedding...So the list goes from 50 to 75, that seems like a big difference, and hell to plan for
* They are very unlikely to come anyway because they're several states away and the wedding date is no vacation weekend getaway time either. But I rather not plan for 50 to attend with invites for 75 out in the world.
* I'm not that close to these cousins. I've never spoken to any of them on the phone or met up with them if they ever come through my city/state (with 2 exceptions). We don't even speak on social media. For the past decade, not so much as a "happy birthday."
* For their weddings, I was not invited, but my parents were. Which brings me to the thought how I originally was like, "invite the aunts/uncles." My parents are their aunt/uncle, seems to be proper etiquette to invite the aunts/uncles; I'm their cousin who they barely know and talk to, I wasn't invited, life goes on.
But my parents are continuing to go "they're your family and we're close to them so you should feel close to them and invite them anyway. they'll send a gift but probably won't come." Do I have to send them all invites?
