Inviting my Fiancé’s friend & cousin to the wedding

Since it is your fiancé's friend and cousin you should ask him if he wants them there and then talk about what happened. My FH fiancé doesn't want his half brother invited but I'd prefer not to cause a riff in the family and just invite him, but we talked about it and I am respecting and supporting his decision based on everything he told me. Have you talked to your fiancé about it?

Hi Brianna, I assume his friend/cousin was young and immature at the time he said that. Sometimes immature people who don’t have relationship experience tend to want their circle to also be single too, hence saying something stupid like that. I also assume he is probably embarrassed now and perhaps hoping you don’t know he said that. Not excusing it of course, that is not nice or moral advice and would hurt my feelings too if I were in your shoes. If it were me, I’d invite him and in private make a joke to him “we wouldn’t have gotten married had fiancé followed your advice”. 😉

I would ask your fiancé if he wants to invite them and also explain your feelings. Like Katie said, it was most likely a long time ago so they were probably just young and immature. Have they said anything else inappropriate about you/your relationship since then? If they have continued this behavior then I definitely understand not inviting them. But if it was a one time thing while they were young and dumb, then they've probably learned,

View Quoted Comment So this was about a year and half ago that his cousin and friend said this, my fiancé and I have talked about but like all he says is I’m sorry and there’s really nothing he could do about what they said. But in the back of my mind I’m thinking like if my fiancé loves me why would he invite those people. Also I don’t know if he listened to his friends or not either, you know men tend to do things to be cool because there friends are doing it ..but idk if I’m just being really over dramatic?😢🙄

View Quoted Comment I think this is more concerning than whether these two people get invited to the wedding. Do you actually think your FH may have cheated on you because his friend told him to? “‘Men tend to things to be cool because their friends are doing it”- no, that’s what immature boys do. Men, regardless of what their friends say, do the things that make them happy.

View Quoted Comment I honestly think he did but I will never know, your right and till this day I think they haven’t grown up soo, I think I’m just going to have to figure a way to just let it go I guess🥺

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry off topic but why are you marrying someone who you think cheated on you? It sounds like a trust issue. Also It was only a year ago are you sure you guys are ready for marriage? And if he did cheat as your fiancé do you think he’ll do it again to “impress his friends.” I’m sorry I wouldn’t be able to move forward without concrete answers.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Clarissa. Why are you marrying someone you think cheated on you? I don’t think that’s something you have to let go of. Have you two done any couples counseling?

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I think it is more concerning that you are willing to marry someone that you don't trust and think might have cheated on you just because he wanted to impress others. I think you need to put a pause on wedding planning and think about if this is really the type of person that you want to marry.

I would recommend couples counseling. It will help you work through challenges you’re facing and work on trust, communication, etc. I don’t know if you have a date set, but I’d def suggest giving this a try to build that strong foundation before officially tying the knot.

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Oh, I am so sorry you think your future spouse cheated on you! To me, you have a future spouse problem, not a "fiancé's friend & cousin problem." Please deal with this issue before the wedding. Stop worrying about who to invite to your wedding and focus on getting to the bottom of your relationship issues and future spouse's character.

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This isn't something you should "just let go". If you actually think he cheated then I think you have bigger problems than inviting his friend and cousin to the wedding. I agree with Sarah and Clarissa. You definitely need to get the truth from your fiancé. Whether that's just talking to him or doing couples counseling.

I would wonder why he told you what they said? To what end? That just seems so hurtful - like ok his cousin doesn’t think you are worth fidelity but why relay that info to you. The grown up thing would be for him to put the cousin in his place and remind him to act like a decent person and keep your name out of his mouth.

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Wait, what? You think your partner may have cheated on you? I think you're feeling a type of way about the wrong person. Sounds like you're deflecting your feelings onto his cousin/friend. I would suggest couples counselling to resolve this obvious trust issue between the two of you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you ladies it’s exactly what I need, I’m just so sad and can’t vent to anybody about this so I’m happy all of you are giving me advice , the hurtful thing for me is that like his cousin and friend saying that to him knowing he is happy with me. I know it was a year ago but like I hold onto my emotions very strong! And then If I see them at the wedding I’m going to have at the back of my head like (hey you told him to say this when we were together) because they both still immature especially his friend !