I know typically this is seen as very rude, however, there's a massive feud going on and I need help with etiquette.
TLDR: Fiancé has two male friends. Friend 1's wife treated us horribly before and at her wedding, then stalked me onto Insta to send me screaming messages. Friend 2's fiancé is the best friend of the wife of friend 1, and I don't trust her. I don't want to invite either woman to our wedding.
Full story:
I have massive problems with two people in two couples. I was treated horribly at one's wedding (and me and my fiancé were engaged at the time) and she also treated both me and my fiancé horribly in the months before the wedding. Fiancé was a groomsman, but sadly only because his height matched a bridesmaid and the bride wanted everyone in the party to match.
Ever since the wedding they've been incredibly rude and hurtful. Even to the point the wife stalking me onto Instagram (they were not following me before and were blocked from my FB so they couldn't have gotten my insta from there) and messaging me to yell at me. That husband isn't even allowed to speak to my fiancé anymore, and they were friends since kindergarten. I've said if the husband speaks to my fiancé before I send out invites, I'll consider inviting him, but not his wife.
The other woman is the best friend of the wife in the first couple, and I absolutely do not trust her at my wedding to not go and gossip behind my back to the first one. Her fiancé (they were recently engaged) is my fiancés long time friend though, and he has recently spoken to my fiancé. He was also attempting to help us ease the first feud.
I know my fiancé wants the second friend at the wedding at least, I'm fine with him as he's a very nice person. I however do not want to constantly be worrying about his partner and what's going to happen behind my back. I absolutely refuse to have the wife of friend 1 at the wedding should the husband decide to speak to us.
In this situation, is it ok to not invite the women but invite their partners?
