Inviting Someone in Prison

I feel like that would make him super depressed. Maybe hold on to an invite and give it to him with some photos from the wedding when he gets out.

WTF!?!?!?

I wouldn't...it serves no purpose other than reminding him that he wont be able to party with the family and is stuck behind bars.

I agree with your mom. Include him. People in prison feel so isolated at times.

Try and attach a small note to the invite. Something to let him know that obviously you know he can't attend but it's not going to be the same without him. I think the invite will be super encouraging.

Maybe put a note in there with it. So its not like you are just shoving it in his face since you know he can't go. I think its just weird to send it without an explanation.

I agree with Rosemary. No invitation.

And honestly, to be blunt about it, obviously he did something wrong to be sent to prison to 5 years and doesn't deserved to be made to "feel better" ...this is all a part of the intended rehabilitation process of the justice system

I think it would make him sad and depressed. I would not do this.

I could go either way. Whether you send the invite or not, I do think a note would be nice. Just let him know that you wish he could be there, and you will send him pictures.

My brother was in jail for about a year, and I would have sent him a letter at minimum. He was pretty lonely even though he talked to my mom almost daily, and others send him letters or visited when they could.

I have a situation where FH's cousin's boyfriend is in jail and I didn't know whether to put him on the invite. I put him on there since it was being sent to FH's cousin but I don't think I would if I was sending it directly to him.

My mother sent my brother a postcard from our family vacation while he was in prison and he said it was the shittiest letter he'd ever received. He said he thought about all of us having fun while he was sitting in jail and it made him depressed.

I wouldn't send an invitation but as someone else mentioned I'd send him a note.

I would not. That's rubbing it in his face.

I would also say not to send him an invite, thats sad. I like the idea of sending a letter and some photos afterwards to make him feel included.

I agree with Maltese...You don't get to "feel better" in jail. Sorry-- I think that part of the learning process of going to jail for crimes is knowing how it feels to miss out on everything else in life.

Oh, and I would also like to add that you know your step brother better than any of us do.

I know my little brother is a Sensitive Sally, and not being included in things hurts his feelings. He would have wanted *some* kind of invite or letter.

I wouldn't send it to him. Obviously he can't attend and I see your point about the 'rubbing it in his face'. Honestly, if you still talk to him/visit at all, I would write him a letter after the fact and maybe include a few pictures and tell him about the day? You had pictures taken when you had your ceremony with your dad have you sent him anything from that? maybe you could even send pics and a letter from that day and just tell him how you are looking forward to your big celebration and how you wish he could be there?

How about sending him pictures of the wedding after the fact

I would send him a letter telling him that your wedding is coming up and that you will send him pictures after. thats kind of shitty sending an invitation to him that clearly he cant attend even if he wanted to.

My brother was in jail and I didn't send him an invite. That's weird. It definately would make him more depressed.

If one of my family members was dumb enough to land themselves in jail, I would do everything to make them feel as shitty about it as possible. I sure as hell wouldn't go out of my way to make them feel better or "included". Hopefully they will learn from that. They weren't put there for handing flowers to random strangers. Please.

Thats a pretty shitty thing to say KM