Inviting Someone in Prison

I COMPLETELY agree (as does my FH) with @StitchingBride - she couldn't have said any better.

I haven't read all the comments but I have a cousin who has done shitty things all his life. Currently he is going through the court system for theft over $5000... we are not inviting him to the wedding. His sister asked us to send him and invite to spare his feelings because he wouldn't come anyways... my response was, 'it's not my job to spare his feelings, if he was a good human being he would be invited, but he isn't and I am not about to make him think he is'

FH uncle is band from Canada, he was deported about 10 years ago. He isn't getting an invite either. You do something to royally screw up you don't deserve to be included.

That's just my opinion though

Wow I cant believe some of the responses on here. Nobody here knows why hes in prison. A person being in prison/not being in prison is not always an indicator of character. I know people who have gone to prison for a legitimate mistake and some people who should rot in a foreign prison for life but got away with their crimes. Op I would maybe ask him if he would like one and send him a nice letter and pictures.

I agree that it depends on how yalls relationship is. My brother that I am very close with was in prison for a few years, including for my high school graduation. i sent him a graduation invite. He liked to collect pictures and momentos and things that connected him to the outside world while he was in there, so i think it also depends on what kind of person he is.

Generally "good etiquette" says to send an invitation you want to be at the wedding, even if you know for a fact that they can't. This is a very special situation, and agree that you do not need to send an invitation in this case. I like the idea of sending him a letter/pictures from the wedding.

Send it. No question. Every piece of mail is cherished behind the wall, ESPECIALLY happy news.

Would you invite him if he wasnt in prison? If so, then send him an invitation, and a note telling him that although he wont be able to attend that you still wanted to let him know you were thinking about him

Maybe this isn't a good comparison but when addressing invites to my brother (single dad to an autistic son) I always put both names. We also send my nephew christmas cards, birthday cards, etc. He is severe on the spectrum, cannot speak, still in diapers and things just are not going well. We still want to include him in every way. We still also want my brother to know that just because his son has a diagnosis, does not mean he is less of a person. I'd say send the invite, let him feel happy for your joy and also rekind him that he is still family.