Inviting Someone You Dislike

If it's a girlfriend it's not really a "plus one" anymore. If someone's a couple you should invite both.

Same. HATE my best friends boyfriend. It would be incredibly rude, not to mention incredibly hurtful to someone I care about, not to invite him. Honestly I'm not worried about my interactions with him as I'm not planning on spending any real time with him... I more just feel bad for my friends who have to sit with him!

I think you're stuck with that one. We're not inviting plus ones (that aren't married/engaged/we know them personally) for our general guests, but he's the best man so you kind of have to.

You won't even notice the GF...you will be too busy enjoying yourself at your wedding to notice insignificant things...at one point during my wedding someone said my brother smelled weed and he was going to look for whoever was doing it...I just said whatever I'm going to continue dancing haha

I refused to invite one my bridesmaids BF's. It was rude but he has ruined every function he has been at and has been terribly rude to me since I met him. I'm not having him at my wedding just because she chooses to be with someone who is so terrible. She dumped him for dealing OXY though so it worked out.

My FH doesn't care for one of his groomsman's girlfriends, but he is inviting her anyway because we both think it would be rude not to. It's better to just invite them and be civil than have him pissed off that you excluded his girlfriend.

However, if you are universally not inviting people's SOs unless they are married or live together than that is a different story. But don't exclude certain people or make exceptions.

Yea, it would be rude not to invite her. But like others said, you probably won't even notice her the day of.

I hate my cousins boyfriend, but she is my MOH so I invited him. But since his relationship with the rest of the family is so shitty he decided to avoid the drama and not come. *happy dance*

You have to invite the girlfriend, since they're an established couple and therefore a social unit. I doubt you'll notice her. Frankly, if the rest of the wedding party is worth their druthers they'll run interference and make SURE you don't notice any of her hijinks.

It would be rude not to invite her as they are a couple. You will be so busy visiting, dancing etc that you really won't notice her I'm sure.

Unfortunately, she has to come. But you won't notice her anyway, you'll have so many great people there that you probably will forget she's even there.

Luckily, I don't have anyone invited that I don't like..except a few family members, but hey, they're family. What are ya gonna do?

A guy I grew up with is dating a girl I CAN'T STAND. Half of my family detests her, too. Although I'd prefer not to see her face on my wedding day, I'm really not all that upset about it. She'll be one person amongst 120. If she even shows up (or "allows" her BF to).

Ditto! Shes mean and told me once before we were engaged that it wasn't going to last. I've been a tad resentful ever since. Maybe they will breakup before the wedding.

Yeah, my FMIL, lmfao!!!!! Sorry, had to say it.

I'm not inviting my sister's bf (my sister is also a BM!). I hate him and so does my whole family including my grandparents. On the other hand she doesn't actually call hom her bf so oh well.

I'm inviting a friend from high school who offered me a room in her home when I needed a place to stay....and a month later she kicked me out because I was "straining her relationship with her (super abusive) boyfriend". She even threw my stuff onto the patio! Even though she majorly burned me (and wound up the hospital a month after that when he tried to kill her.....and guess who she's still currently dating? yup), I figured a month or two of really bad decisions shouldn't cancel out years of friendship.

FH has strongly indicated he really doesn't want to invite his family. Like, at all, save for maybe his siblings. I'm actually the one inviting them, despite the hell his mother brings down upon us. So yeah....I totally know where you're standing!

Yesssss. Unfortunately I did notice her because she was wearing a very bright colored dress. She’s also present in a lot of my pictures. But unfortunately you just have to deal; it would cause more drama not to include her. She didn’t ruin my day or anything but she didn’t go unnoticed….I wish she had!

At least I'm not alone! I do hope I won't have to interact with her. I'm crossing my fingers and hoping she just won't come!

You have to invite her but hopefully not interact with her. I am inviting two people that I would rather not. One is a family friend that I don't care for but is present in my life at most Holidays etc and it would be awkward not to invite her. Another is a good friend of my parent's. She's nice but drinks way too much. She's not particularly badly behaved when drinking, it's just a little awkward. Overall, I'm not too upset. Also my parents are paying for my entire wedding and have asked almost nothing of me so I'm happy to comply with their requests.

Girlfriend =/= plus one

Girlfriend = significant other

Yes, you have to invite her. Can you imagine if one of your best friends invited you to their wedding, or if you were in someone's wedding party and you'd put in a ton of time, money, and effort into helping them with their wedding ... and then they didn't invite your fiance because they didn't like him?

It'll be fine.