Inviting someone you don’t like?

We both sat down and wrote our guest list together, without looking at each other’s paper and when we exchanged papers we saw that we had written the exact same people. It was easy and perfect. We were both happy. We only wanted people close to us there, like immediate family. We decided on no plus ones because -
1. I have a huge family, I mean, really big. I herd of cousins, I feel like I have 50 uncles, and 50 aunts, most of them have kids and families.
2. Then the other bit of my family are alcoholics, drug users and just people that would make inappropriate comments at your wedding and bring their one night stand, to be specific someone in my family literally pimps their girlfriend and had been to prison like 3 times, and escaped. And he has tried to have relations with multiple women in the family, including me. (I have like 4 uncles like this!!!) heck no!
3. His family is small. 4 people to be exact, no cousins or anything. I love his mom, but she is dating someone that has fully insulted me and my family for no good reason, his family has never met my family though we’ve tried. Her boyfriend went to FH work and literally talked pure smack on my family saying they were dangerous (he’s a private investigator) ((literally he investigated my family!! Pulled up arrests and everything, my brother was arrested for having marijuana years ago and for “kidnapping” his gf/ they were in the car together talking and she got mad and called the cops, he was cleared)) then he even talked crap about his mom.. the woman he was dating. And she did too, said that he threatened to kill her and stuff, why would I let her bring him? Nooooo way! Don’t even get me started on the rest..

To make it easy, we made a list. Just that, that’s it. No one else is allowed, go away, goodbye! Simple.

I'm currently planning and i have a friend that used to date on of my FH's friends, to cut it short it ended in tears and explosions. Obviously we want them both at the wedding but FH's friend now has a new girlfriend that my friend doesn't get on with at all. I'm worried it'll cause chaos, they both assume eachother will be there as we were all friends, but i don't think my friend is aware that his new girlfriend will be there. They've been together a long time and she's a lovely girl. I have no problem, but it's a sticky one.

I suppose what will be, will be!

This is a question I have, too! I have a good friend from high school who I'd like to invite, but I really don't like her partner Dx We all lived together with my MOH when I moved away from my hometown, and while we never straight-up insulted each other, we butted heads a lot. I find him to be arrogant, smelly (literally, he's a chemist and his nose doesn't work anymore; his BO is so bad), and just kind of a jerk. Actually it's mostly the being a jerk thing. He mansplains left and right and I just...ugh. FH met him one time before my friend and her partner moved across the country. They've been together probably 8ish years now.

So if invited, friend would already be paying a good bit to travel back for the wedding...Honestly, this one was still in the works so uhhhh, we'll see what we decide to do.

It is YOUR day. Make it about you. Dont invite anyone you dont want there. If you have to think about it I would say no. I'm currently wedding planning and I am not inviting my fiances brothers girlfriend. We invited the brother and we hope he attends, but the girlfriend negative. People wonder why and shes a shady lil b. ON top of it she slept with my fiance and numerous people attending wedding. I dont need drama.

You invite who you want, he invites who he wants. But you don't dictate that the other person can't invite whom they want. The exception being that the intended guests are violent or toxic.

I have a similar situation and I really don’t want this couple (his “cousins” not blood ) there in particular because a while back my fiancé cheated and started talking to the wife’s friend and she knew about it, went to Vegas and all then started acting funny towards me and I never knew why until I found out. Anyways ever since i found out I made it very clear I don’t like them and I don’t want anything to do with them especially at our wedding but the husband is his friend since highschool. I tolerate the husband but I definitely don’t want the wife there whatsoever. I told him no but I feel like it’s going to cause problems

My hubby has a couple of guys from high school. Still act about 13, 13 for social skills, and their senses of humor always are mean to spmeone. I think they have spent life like that. But I would ot dream of not inviting them at the holidays, or fishing. Hubby considers them friends. Only 1 of you needs be a friend for a wedding invitation.