*TW abuse of all forms, miscarriage, self harm/suicide*
So since my teenage years, I haven't had a good relationship with my mother, to the point of refering to her has my bio-mom, and calling my step mom Momma (she's known me since she was 5). After intense family tragedy when I was 10, my bio mom flipped a switch and turned extremely volatile and emotionally abusive. Then, when I was 16, it turned physical. Slapping, punching, and at one point slamming my head into the tile bathroom floor after I told her I wanted to see a therapist for self harm tendencies. When I was 17, I told her I wanted to remove my BC; she said no. When I told her it was my body, my decision, she came at me and started punching my face. I called my dad (parents never dated after I was born) to come get me but my bio mom wouldn't allow him to and I couldn't communicate in time to him that she was being physical. It kept escalating to head slamming and choking me. I went to school the next day with bruises on my throat, a split lip and a black eye. After that I moved out and limited all interaction to only seeing my sister, her other daughter. After that, we rarely spoke, till last year. Last year, she had a miscarriage and tried to kill herself. I had to have the police commit her. When she got out, she told me she wished she had never had me. Now, she pretends like none of that ever happened.
Flash forward to now; my 14year old sister, her other daughter, is begging me to have her at my wedding. My sister is a JRBM, if that matters. When I told her our mom wasn't on the guest list she broke out in tears and said "all I want is for you and Mommy to be happy again".
I'm so torn. She HATES my fiance, primarily because he sees through her 'im a great mom* persona, and constantly encourages me to cut contact since he sees how much our mother/daughter relationship kills me. He's also extremely close with my sister and they see each like siblings and have for years. I don't want to upset my sister, but I also know I should put myself and my fiance first since it's our day. I'm just really not sure what to do.
TLDR: my mom is a huge abusive piece of work, but my kid sister is begging me to invite her so we can be one happy family for a day.
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