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Involving future stepchildren in the ceremony

Mary Elizabeth , on September 22, 2018 at 8:32 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 12

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Hi! My fiancé’s children are 8 and 10. They are great boys and I’m excited to be able to call them my family soon. Through our conversations with them about getting married, they have indicated that they are excited, too. The older child said, “Wait, now we’re going to have two moms!”

I was was wondering if anyone planned to involve the children in the wedding ceremony beyond just being ring bearers. I’m a teacher and feel strongly that the boys need to feel that this is our wedding- not just between their dad and me, but also for us as a family. Any ideas?

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Latest activity by Ginsteeca, on September 23, 2018 at 9:33 AM

Devoted November 2018
Karen · on September 22, 2018 at 8:44 AM
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I have a 7 year old. My fiancé has a theee year old. They will be our flower girls and my daughter will have our rings. We will also say simple vows to each other’s daughter after our personal vows.
I have 50 days to go and I might change my mind, but for now...the four of us will be introduced as the new Kelley-Cuadra family and then Mr. and Mrs. Also, he will dance with them (instead of dancing with his mom) and I will join in as a father-daughters/family dance.
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Rebecca · on September 22, 2018 at 8:48 AM
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Awww, Mary Elizabeth! They sound so excited to have you as an official part of their family!
When my aunt and uncle got married, my cousins (who were going to be my aunt's step-children) were matron of honor and best man. They were around the same age - 8 and 11. They both game speeches that they wrote themselves and stood directly next to them for the whole ceremony. When my aunt did her vows, she also did separate vows to the kids It was adorable - it felt very much like my aunt was just not marrying their dad, but also the kids
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Mrs. S · on September 22, 2018 at 8:58 AM
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I have a blended family of 4 kids and when my dad and stepmom got married we were just in the front row. It was already a big experience getting new brothers and a new mom and I think I would have been overwhelmed having extra jobs. Our ages were 6, 7, 8, and 9
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Kayla · on September 22, 2018 at 9:09 AM
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My son is “Inherited” from my relationship as well. He is only five but will be walking the aisle. Then sitting with his Granny until we do the unity sand ceremony when we all three will have our own colored sand to blend together. That’s when we will focus on creating a family between the 3 of us.
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Future Mrs. Weaver · on September 22, 2018 at 9:24 AM
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Very cute stuff! Love it! I will have my children in the wedding and one of them is step to my FH! Very good idea to add your children/stepchildren its important for them to know that your not just taking daddy/mommy away from them forever!!!
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Emily · on September 22, 2018 at 10:27 AM
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That's very sweet of you! After being together 8 years, my mom and stepdad are finally getting married. My stepdad is having his son & my brother be his best men & my mom is having me and my stepsister as maids of honor. But we're also all old. Everyone will be 20-25 haha.
Could they stand next to you guys during the ceremony and somehow "commit" to each other too?
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ColoradoAshley · on September 22, 2018 at 10:35 AM
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My kids, 10 and 8, wanted to be a groomsmen and bridesmaid. They will also be a part of our unity ceremony as this is about building our family.
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Mary Elizabeth · on September 22, 2018 at 11:24 AM
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Yes! That’s exactly what I was thinking. I’m just not sure what that should look like. I want it to be simple and straightforward, but feel special to them. And it doesn’t have to be in front of everyone, but I feel that they need that special ceremony just for them!
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Devoted October 2019
Future Mrs Wilson · on September 22, 2018 at 11:35 AM
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My 14 and 17 yr old step kiddies will be in the wedding
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Tracy · on September 22, 2018 at 1:03 PM
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My fiancee's daughters are 16, 18, and 21. I have made them my "maids of honor", and they will be in the middle of the ceremony with us...in a semi-circle behind the officiant, rather than off to the side with the other bridesmaids.
Moral is...you can do whatever you want to make them feel included on your special day.
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Jane · on September 22, 2018 at 3:11 PM
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I have 4 children, one of which is with my future husband. He has two other children from a previous marriage. All of the children are going to be my bridesmaids/paige boys and follow me down the aisle. I am a teacher too, and I couldn't imagine just having them all on the side line watching the proceedings.
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Ginsteeca · on September 23, 2018 at 9:33 AM
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I have two boys. They will be 14 and 17 at the time of the wedding, and serving as groomsmen. My oldest will also be walking me down the aisle. FH has a son that will be 8 that is going to act as his best man.
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