Is 2 years too long of an engagement?

Our engagement will be a total of 22 months. The first year went by fairly quickly. But after we booked the venue in October, the rest of the planning was done (and all vendors booked) by November. So, for the most part, 2020 will be planning-free.

Ours is two years too! We got engaged at a weird time and it was just too late to book a Fall wedding for 2020. So instead, we are getting married Fall 2021. I like it because it gives us more time to plan, save money, and I just get to enjoy the planning longer.

We were looking for a house before and then we got engaged and 2 weeks later we finally got accepted on a house. Due to the house we decided to have a 2 year engagement because we spent the rest of 2019 towards cost of the house and stuff to go in it. Now that its 2020 now its time to plan the wedding. It nice to get quotes and figure out how much everything is. However, I have had things already booked for our date so 2 years give you time to plan and book the perfect wedding that you want.

Congrats!

Mine is two years (February '18- this April) and let me tell you IT. HAS. FLOWN! I've loved having a longer engagement because it gave me time to just relax and enjoy being engaged after all the big stuff (venue, etc.) were booked! It has been a stress free and very fun process because of the extra time we've had! There is no such thing as too long in my opinion!

Like others have said, it's really whatever you guys want it to be. Regardless of what you choose, make sure you think it through AND that you're willing to stick to your decisions.

For us, we will end up being engaged for 7.5 months. And quite honestly, it feels WAY too long. I have almost all of it planned and it's killing me that I still have to wait for the day. We've been together for over 4 years and I'm really just ready to be married. I'm excited for the wedding and we are putting everything we can towards saving for it, but it's just 1 day. We both have good jobs so we are blessed to be able to save a decent amount each month, but we also don't want a huge lavish wedding.

I think a huge factor is, are you decisive? Can you make a choice and stick with it? I went to try on dresses one time. Sure, I could have dragged my Mom and Sister's around to more, but I found a dress I felt beautiful in and was done. Same with all the other decisions. I found some places, made a pros vs. cons list and made a choice. I think the stress for me would be having so much time to second guess my choices and the risk of the budget exploding. It's so easy to get sucked into the Pinterest boards and your dream expands.

I've caught myself a few times letting my plans get off track. Being engaged even longer would make it more challenging for me, personally. Along with that, you never have the promise of tomorrow and between the two of us, we only have my Maternal Grandparents left. I don't want to wait too long then have to celebrate without someone.

Oh and for the house thing, after the wedding all the money is going towards saving for a down payment. We wanted to be married before we locked ourselves into a buying a home together.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your reply Kendra! Your information is super useful. I appreciate seeing both sides! I am able to typically decide on one thing and stick to it, but I could absolutely still see going back and forth and stressing myself out with too many options. I guess we will find out! Congratulations and best wishes on house hunting as well!

Mine was a year but I do wish I had more time to plan it than that.

So….how long did y’all end up being engaged for after posting?