Is a joint bachelor/bachelorette party a good idea....?

I don’t understand why the joint party is necessary. Give your future husband time to himself with the guys. It appears there is something deeper reason your requesting a joint party

Honestly, I would want to do a co-ed party just because my friends aren't as fun as FH and his friends. It would liven the party. BUT, FH says no. So it's a no. You can't talk him into it. If his version of a bach party is without you and your friends, then he deserves that. All of my BMs are moms with babies or small kids and they are all already married... how fun could that possibly be? lol. I'm bummed, but it is what it is. I'm not suppose to be the one planning it so unfortunately I'll be stuck doing what the "mom group" wants to do for my party.

We’re potentially planning a joint glamping trip as a hen/stag party. During the day we’ll break off and do different things (they have a spa, lake water activities, horseback riding hiking, biking, etc) but all party together at night, it’s a destination wedding so we’re going early for the overnight trip. I only have 2 girls and he only has his best man. So we’re inviting spouses too since they are all married. I say go for it!!

I think it sounds like a good idea

We are planning a trip that is joint with both parties and i think it will be GREAT!! Everybody gets along and alot of the party on my side is girlfriends of my fiances side. We are all excited and think it will work out just great!

Although I am no where close to thinking details about a bach. party, I definitely think this is your last chance in celebrating a moment of you being single. There will be so many many years of celebrating things together. Enjoy this moment with you and your friends before the big day that will be a celebration you BOTH will be at TOGETHER!

I think we are doing a co-ed party. All of our female and male friends are close so it just works out! I told my FH he could totally still have his own night out with his friends in addition to the co-ed thing though because I don't take that away from him if it is something he wants.

If he isn't receptive, I'd let him do his own thing.

I am planning a joint thing and then we will probably do something small with out own bridal parties closer to the wedding. I think its a great idea, it has nothing to do with trust and everything to do with knowing a great group of people.

Maybe tell your FH that he could do something small closer with his guys? If he wanted.

Can you do a partly-joint party with them? Like start it together and then split up, or vice versa? Would he be up to that idea?

I actually like the idea of a joint party with your significant other. Maybe you could drop hints to your bridal party that that’s something you prefer?

My only comment is this. Some people here feel it is the responsibility of the bridal party or the groomsmen to handle the party planning. This is ONLY if the bride and groom WANT a party. I didn't. First of all, I only have 3 REAL male friends, and they don't know each other. I am intensely introverted. I prefer very close friendships or to be with my partner or to be on my own. I expressed to everyone that I just wanted to spend the night with my dad and sister. My mom passed away last year. I get offended when some people just plan these parties without respecting the wishes of the people who will be receiving them. You are to celebrate who they are as people. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I hate strip clubs. I just wanted to be with immediate family. My 3 male buddies totally understood. But I don't have a gang of male friends like others do. Just be careful. I had an ex-coworker who is introverted. He has more buddies than I do, one of them extroverted. Unlike me, 3 of them knew each other. Despite the fact that he didn't want a bachelor party and was adamant, the 3 idiots still planned one. When a limo arrived at this man's house, ignoring his wishes, he went nuts. His bride to be and her gal pal chuckled. Little did they know. You don't do this to people. The guy who planned the whole thing ended up with a broken nose when he tried to push the groom in the limo. The groom just laid him out and took his wedding invitation taken away and told him to get off the property before he called the cops. Told him if he was a real friend, he would respect his wishes. They have not spoken since. The bride and her pal were totally shocked as it was the only act of any anger she had seen for him in 3 years of dating. Happy to say the couple is still married, but it really put a damper on the wedding.