Is a year dating too short to get married?

Yes, this is too short. Why the rush? I personally would prolong the engagement... I think 2-3 years is the sweet spot.

Ultimately, you are the only ones that know your relationship.

However, I would caution you to be engaged for at least a year before the wedding.

Take time to plan a wedding you will enjoy. The wedding will also be more enjoyable overall because your family will have grown to process and accept the engagement by that time.

Like previous post said, only the couple can decide. I know people who meet and a week later were married. Still married till this day. But its up to you. My fh and i got engaged after a year and 2 months into our relationship. We never "dated." We were courting and knew we wanted marriage from the first day. Our engagement has been long though. We wanted to get married 9 months after we got engaged but life happened that it turned into a 16 month engagement. Also my fh and i are much older and have established careers. A lot of that all factors in. But everyone is different so we can't tell you its a good idea or not. Only you two do.

I personally feel like there are a lot of tests/kinks to work out in the first three years of a relationship. So it might be a little to soon but if you are happy then go for it, just know that it might not be smooth sailing for the next few years. I also think living with a person changes the relationship and you learn a lot about each other in the process. Again, just my opinion. I’ve been with my fh for 13 years and I am so not saying to wait that long haha but I feel the first three years we’re definitely the hardest. We have been smooth sailing ever since. Good luck to you!

In the grand scheme of things, yes it’s short . But more important than the length of time is the quality and the experiences (and not just good experiences). I feel like a year is still the “honeymoon” phase of a dating relationship with a lot left to learn. Heck, this month FH and I have been engaged for 1 year and even THAT flew by quickly (yet we’ve known each other for 7yrs... and been together for 4 years). But ultimately it’s your decision. Possibly stretching the engagement out for 2 years would offer the two of you a little more time to grow as a couple before taking the next step into marriage. Of course it’s only a suggestion. So best wishes with whatever you choose!

I mean every couple is different. There's some couples that date for a long time getting married and still get divorced. A year can be short I mean I have a couple of friends whose parents met and got married in six months but my personal friends I haven't seen it work out where they got married in a short time. Although I'm talking less than a year. I would say maybe have a slightly longer engagement because 4 months is a short time to plan a wedding especially if you plan on having a full one. Ultimately you two know each other best so there's nothing wrong with saying we want to be together so let's go for it either your relationship will work out or it won't but honestly that's what any couple regardless of the length of time they know each other.

I'll mimic what other Brides have said, it all depends on the couple. My parents got married after dating 8 months and are celebrating 36 years of marriage in July. My first husband and myself dated for 7 months, got married and divorced 4 years later. Our situation was slightly different as I was pregnant with our son and we felt the need to get married, but it still didn't work out in the end. My FH and I have been together 5 years by the time of our wedding and lived together for 4 of those years. I can tell you waiting does not hurt anything, having more time to not only plan your wedding but also get to know the person you are about to commit your life to is valuable. I would never make a rush to the alter again and I've waited 14 years between marriages, take some advice with a grain of salt, you have the rest of your lives to be together, take this time slow and evaluate and enjoy. Good luck and I hope it all works out in your favor.

I think a year is rather short to be dating before you get engaged. To truly know someone, I think you need to be together for longer than a year. Do you guys live together already? Moving in together can be a big test on your relationship. My husband and I moved in together after 8 months and it took some adjusting to get used to living together. Also, have you been through good and bad times together? The bad times really test your relationship so you need to be able to survive those times. Four months is also an extremely short engagement. Not only for you, but for any guests you plan on inviting because that doesn't give them much notice to be able to plan to attend your wedding. Is there a reason you need to rush into being married so quickly after being engaged? I would recommend taking your time and enjoy being engaged for a bit. I was engaged for 11 months and 1 day. We were also together for 2 and half years prior and all, but 8 months we lived together so we were definitely used to being together every day and night. Another thing to consider is whether you are financially stable. Money can cause a lot of stress. My husband was fired the day we got back from our honeymoon. He got a new job within a month then he was fired from that job at the end of 2019. The company had a reputation for not having employees long term. Losing both jobs so quickly after getting married has been extremely stressful, but we were able to work through those problems. If we had only been together for a year I don't know how well we would have worked through those.

It definitely depends on the couple. My parents were together for trates before they got married, and had a horrible, messy divorce when I was 18. My uncle and aunt got married after a few months of being together, and have been together for about 34 years. My FH and I were friends for a few years before we started dating, but even then, I would not have wanted to or felt ready to marry him at the one year mark. Of course I WANTED to marry him, in the future, but I would not have wanted us to get married right then. And he is absolutely the one for me, and I’ve known that since we were friends. I would caution you to get to know him a bit better. You never fully know someone, but going through hurdles as a couple can definitely be trying and help you realize whether or not they are right for you.

My parents were together for years*** in the previous post. 🤦🏽‍♀️ My bad!

It totally depends on you! I knew after one year of dating that he was the man for me, but we weren't in a life stage yet where we could move towards marriage (we were both in college still).

However, I think it's truly more about the quality of time that you spend with a person than the quantity of time. During that first year of dating we went through a lot together: we experienced stress and uncertainty, we challenged each other's weaknesses and forced each other to become more self-aware, we traveled a lot and were therefore in situations and environments that were new to us and somewhat outside of our comfort zones, and he lost a loved one. I think it's important to see how the other person reacts to all sorts of situations and environments. I also think that it's important that you've talked about a lot (past relationships and mistakes/regrets, life ambitions, career goals, what you value, what you're most likely to invest your money in, if and when you want kids, where you want to live, how you want to live, what you expect your vacations to be like, who you will spend holidays with, your weaknesses/things you want to work on in yourself, etc.).

If you haven't gone to pre-marital counseling yet, I 10000% recommend it. It's the best investment you can make in your marriage at this point.

As for a 4 month engagement - If you can plan it all within that time frame then go for it! It might be more stress than it's worth though. We're having a 9 month engagement (we're both a big fan of short engagements) and it's been kind of a whirlwind getting it all planned in time.

At the end of the day, your family probably just want what's best for you. They've known you longer than anyone else and they've seen you grow as a person. Do you and your future spouse spend time together with them? It may be helpful to them if they see you interact as a couple more. They're also your best resource for pointing out red flags that you might have overlooked (or not wanted to see).

At the end of the day, the mushy-gushy feelings of romance will inevitably fade over time. you want to make sure that the person you're waking up next to every day is someone that you are willing to sacrifice for, cry over, fight for, and serve unconditionally. You also want to make sure that they are someone who will do the same for you.

Side note: It can take only a day to see how great a person is. The question is, have you seen how much a jerk he can be? Have you seen him upset, or mad, or in moments of weakness? How do you handle them as a couple? How do you sort out conflict? Are you on the same page with conflict resolution and communication? Or does one of you hide from/ignore conflict while the other tries to address is head-on? Do you forgive each other or do you hold grudges?

If you know, you know right?
Of course it is more common for people to get married somewhere in the 2-4+ year range, but there are plenty of people out there who got married right away and are still happily together and others who dated for a decade and almost immediately divorced. Every couple is unique and just because their timeline is different doesn't mean it's wrong.

Consider the experiences y'all have had together, good AND bad (ex: extended trips together, living together, meeting each others families, the loss of a family member/friend, loss of job/career change, how each other acts and reacts in times of joy/sadness/anger), and know that you'll still have so much to learn about each other.

As far as the engagement, as long as the two of you are able to plan and finance the wedding that you want in that time period, why not?! Good luck girl

FH & I only dated 13 months before getting engaged. We're getting married next month so our wedding will be just under 2 years after we started dating. When you know, you know! My oldest brother & sister-in-law got engaged 6 months after they started dating, and their wedding was 6 months after that (a year after they started dating). They've been married for 9 1/2 years and have a great marriage! So no... I don't think it's necessarily too quick.

Ultimately, only you and your fiance would know this. There is no cookie cutter time frame for marriage. Are y'all relatively young or a little bit older? I only ask because I've been with my FH for 6 and a half years and have literally grown up with him. I still (6.5 years later) learn something new about him regularly; some of them being things I love and some of them things I don't. You have to take some time to really get to know someone before you can make a lifelong commitment. Figure out if the things you don't really like are things you can deal with for the next 60 years. Personally, I'd hit the brakes and extend the engagement. We're having a year and a half long engagement to save money and plan. We'll get married a week after our 7 year anniversary.

If you know you know, there is no reason to wait! My FH and I go engaged on our one year anniversary. We took about a year to plan the wedding. We really needed every bit of that time because most of out family is traveling for the wedding.

That being said, planning a wedding in only 4 months could be stressful. I would recommend at least 8 months for planning purposes. But if you can pull it off, go for it!

As for your family, have they really gotten to know you FH? If not, I would recommend putting in some time and effort to get them to know each other. I think that would ease some of their anxiety.

My FH and I were only together a year before we were engaged. We are having a longer engagement. But it really depends on the individual relationship and what you think.

My aunt (the person I look to for everything) met her husband and they knew within a few weeks of dating and got married after 10 months. They are celebrating 23 years this year and are very happy together. My FH and I got engaged after 8 months of dating (we've lived together since basically day one) but decided to do a 14 month engagement. I would recommend a longer engagement if you can! It's given us a lot of time to grow together and learn how to live with each other. My cousin did a 4 month engagement (after dating her husband for 6 years) and she was unbelievably stressed that entire time. She didn't get the wedding she always wanted and all her guests could tell. Is there a reason you need to get married within the next 4 months?

Me and my FH got engaged after 4 months of dating. I believe when you know you know. However we did have a long engagement due to us feeling a rush to decide if we actually wanted a wedding. When we do get married this July we will have been together for a year and eight months.

I'll be the odd ball out and say when you know, you know. My first marriage I was very young and very naiive. My ex and I dated over a year before we got married, we lasted 13 years together. I can tell you now there were so many red flags I ignored right away with my first husband. Things that, when put into practice dating after divorce, guided me to my husband. But we didn't date, we courted. We entered our relationship knowing marriage was the goal and focused our relationship on those things. Building together and experiencing probably the most stressful things imaginable in the short period of time we were engaged. We got engaged after 2 months of officially dating and married 5 months after that. I wouldn't change it for the world.

You know your relationship better than anyone.

My ex bf and I had talked about getting married. We were together for almost 2 years, and every time we talked about it, it just didn't feel right to me.

My current FH and I were only together for 4 months before getting engaged. While I do think that is a short time, it all feels right and perfect, and I have not doubts at all about this. Although, we will have been together for a year and a half by the time we get married.

If people have anything to say about it, just don't let them ruin your fun. I've had some weird looks and comments, but ultimately, I know what I want, and you should know the same. You've got this, don't give in to those who want to rain on your parade, besides, rain is supposed to be good luck on a wedding day

To add too: when I was talking about marrying my ex, my mom was constantly asking me if I was sure, if I was happy. She could tell (even if I couldn't) that I wasn't completely happy, that something was off with that relationship, and that was over a year into that relationship. When I brought it up to my mom about my current FH and I wanting to get engaged after just a couple months, I think she saw the difference, she could tell that it was right. And while my parents would have liked us to wait a little longer, they (well, at least my mom) are eagerly helping to plan the wedding.