Is anyone else being incorrectly labelled a bridezilla over things that don’t even come close to it?

I feel this completely. Making any decision at all, no matter how reasonable, makes you an insane bridezilla. I can’t help but feel this is pretty sexist. Anyway, I got called a bridezilla by my future MIL for not wanting to leave my 2,000 wedding gown in a hot car (in the florida heat!) so she could go eat lunch 🙃 insane. And she said this behind my back.

I think it's just a nice easy catch-all term for when these people don't want to do something, kind of like calling someone a Karen.

It reminds me very much when someone tells you to 'calm down' because there's basically nothing you can say or do after that which isn't going to make you look more like you aren't calm/a bridezilla.

I don't think any of the things you listed count as being a bridezilla. Those all seem reasonable to me, especially the emergency kit (and for what it's worth, I had the same request for my bridesmaids - any style they want in the color I chose, and to please avoid the slits). You seem to have everything well planned out. I would avoid mentioning too many details about your plans to those who don't receive it well.

None of that sounds unreasonable to me. In fact, as a member of a bridal party, I would appreciate a list of where the bride/groom/wedding party had to be and when. Everything else you listed just seems like things any bride would do to for a wedding.

You are most certainly not a bridezilla.

I got called it because i didn't really want guests to wear pink.

some people here are going to disagree with me saying you can't tell people what to do. i wasn't gonna go bizzerk if someone DID wear pink, ok. i was just trying to tell guests if they can avoid pink, please do so. that's the bridesmaids colors and i just wanted it to be clear.

i mean at the same time - you really wanna tell me that you HONESTLY can't just wear another darn color?! like honestly, is your entire closet pink or something? that's why it's a bit frustrating cause i know some people are gonna say well why do you care what your guests wear? but at the same time, i don't think that's THAT hard to try to do either.

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Out of curiousity, did anyone wear pink to the wedding? Lol

These don’t seem at all like a bridezilla things at all. I got called one all the time by one of my bridesmaids while wedding planning but she was the one making things difficult basically start to finish. Cancelled the bridesmaids dress fitting 3 times, would tell me I needed to worry about other things then my wedding, then didn’t want to show up to rehearsal the night before. It stopped when I put her in her place and told her she will basically not insult me if she wanted to be included in any part of my wedding. I told her I’m not being a bridezilla but if you want to see one you will. It’s your wedding. It’s an important event in your life and it should be the way you want it.

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Yeah.

one wore pink with a bunch of floral though so i didn't care, that was super distinct. but there was one who wore a pink dress in a completely similar shade as my bridesmaids. she practically could have been a bridesmaid in that dress.

I don't think any of those requests would fall under a bridezilla. It is ok to know what you want and to be organized, nothing wrong with what you're doing. Enjoy your wedding and have it the way you want.

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LOL! I laughed at this!

That’s a bridezilla behavior

Oh. Yeah.

The lady I originally booked my alterations with no showed/ no called to our confirmed appointment. I had driven four and a half hours to my hometown where my dress is being stored and explained to her initially that I had to coordinate alterations for when I would be up there.
I got upset and left her a message telling her not to even bother calling me back as I would find someone who valued my time as much as a I valued there's.

My mom called me a bridezilla for that one.

Totally not a bridezilla! I do see how others can see it that way because of the "demands" (lol), but it's nothing CRAZY. You're totally fine!

But in all honesty, people who do not like taking directions or being told what to do fill find it too much and think you have lost your mind. This doesn't have anything to do with you, it's just how they perceive it.

I thought I was coming off as a bridezilla day of my wedding when I started asking my girls to do certain things, and I kept apologizing because it was so not like me. But they kept reassuring me that I was totally fine and that they wanted to help me in whatever way I can to ease my wedding day.

You are acting as a leader and mature adult. Not one shred of bridezilla detected.

Keep these insane people away from you as much as you can. You will have a beautiful wedding!

Not a bridezilla, organized and efficient is more like it! Love the idea about the runsheet and going to add that to my planning!

I don't think you sound like a bridezilla at all. I think people start using that when you don't agree with them 😂 I'm currently dealing with the SAME thing.

It’s the new term for organized, direct and women who’s knows what they want! My mother called me a bridezilla when I said I don’t want balloons at our wedding or a backyard wedding in which we are paying for. Those things you have mentioned are far from. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than. After all it is your wedding love!

You are not being a bridezilla!!

If this makes you a "Bridezilla" then call me one as well.

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I was told it was unreasonable to ask people to avoid wearing our wedding colors too.

Also I have known a true bridezilla, like "take a week off work to go on a 'pre wedding vacation" and then take another night for the bachelorette party, and you need to show up to our destination wedding 4 days before the actual wedding date" as if no one in the bridal party had their own financial situation or, well you know, a job. I dropped out of that wedding as soon as the "transparency letter" came out.