Is anyone else getting padrinos?

My step daughter had what she called 'sponsors' for her wedding, they didn't call them padrinos but it was basically the same thing. Her husband is from a traditional hispanic family and he had people volunteering to sponsor their wedding.

In your culture, that may be normal. In my culture, it's pretty tacky. Have you talked to other people in your culture who have done it and asked them for advice? To me, since it's so different, it just seems odd.

And if someone asked me, I'd feel obligated- whether they 'made' me or not. But I guess you can look at it like they are giving you your gift early.

Just make sure and send plenty of thank you notes!

Yeah usually when people found out we were engaged they would come up to us and offer us help. so we came up with number and asked them and a couple others that didn't ask us but we have known them for ever.

@meghan B. it is very normal for weddings and quincenera (sweet sixteen). there have been a few wedding before us and they gave us advice about our padrinos. and the way we thank them is by putting their names at the end of the programs. for example: the bride and groom would like to give a special thanks to......for helping make this day possible. and even though they are padrinos they still give a gift i know it might sound odd but that is something ive been used to. i have also been a padrino for a 15th and still give a gift

First off I'd like to say that cultural differences are not TACKY they are simply different and if its something that your family does it should not matter what anyone thinks. The people you are asking, if they are family or close friends I'm sure are aware of the custom. We didn't specifically ask for anyone to do anything for our wedding but my dad offered to do the beer, my mom offered to buy the cake, FMIL offered to buy the wine and then Mom and Dad surprised me by paying for my dress and FIL's surprised us both by taking up a collection amoung themselves for us. It was very appreciated and they were very happy to help out.

Yes we are however we didnt ask for the help. Family members who are used to the custom offered once they found out that we are engaged. The only ppl that FH asked was his dad, aunt, and uncle bc its part of their culture and normal to us. I think i all we will have 6 padrinos

Calm down Devine she didnt say that her culture was tacky, she said that asking someone for money in her culture (Meghan's culture) would be tacky. This is true because in most American cultures its is not considered proper to ask for money for your wedding. This is different in Hispanic cultures. No need to take offense.

@ victoria c yes it is very similar. the only thing about the people that we are asking they offered us help and just told us to let them know how much

@ renne b. im glad im not the only one on here that has padrinos and basicly the ones we are going to ask are our aunts and uncles because that is just how they are. all the cousins that have gotten married do the same thing

@ devine yeah i really didn't see it as rude to me. i did ask what other people thought of this. no worries

Elizabeth: being Hispanic myself, i'm very accustomed to the whole "padrinos" deal. And you're right.. people usually offer their help as soon as they find out you're engaged.. it's just tradition. If it were up to me, I'd pay for everything on my own, only because I'm too shy to ask people... but I know some family will be adamant about being padrinos for something. It's also very VERY traditional to ask for "money tree" as gifts, and, judging by all the posts i've read on WW, almost all other cultures consider it very wrong to do that. To each their own.

I wish someone would pay for something for us I would dance a jig. I think its wonderful

Man, i'm getting screwed out of this tradition dangit!

Not all Hispanics are used to that. I am Mexican and some weddings have "padrinos." My DH is Colombian and when I told him about it he said "Nooo, that would be embarrassing! I would never ask people to help. " In my culture having sponsors is common, to others it might be tacky. Good luck and you are blessed to have people offer to help because weddings are pretty expensive.

@ LC your right now everyone does it. there are a few people that don't like it. so i don't ask them lol but your right. i do consider us blessed. another thing is im marrying a youth pastor and he is also the senior pastor's son so everyone at church is offering their help

thanks ladies i just wanted to know to know if anyone else had heard of this and for those who havn't what they thought of it

@LC and elizabeth- thats so interesting the differences between the different Hispanic cultures..My FH is Venezuelan but he never mentioned anything like that..I'll have to ask, his mom is offering us money for a bigger bed though, just as a gift..Is it more common for the relatives of the bride to be the padrinos than the groom's relatives?

@ ab z. umm well in a way yes the brides family gets more excited so they offer to help more but there really isn't a common it just depends on the family. but in my case my FH is the first to actually get married so its a big deal

@devine yes it was straight forward but i did ask for it. im surprised that not a lot of people are tellling me the same thing she did. i am just curious what other cultures think of mine.

I think it's awesome. I like the fact that your culture pulls together and celebrate a sacred union.

Thank you ladies i do see it like as a family and close friends we are pulling together to celabrate this sacred union that was really well put edwina b.

Even within the same country it might be different. In Mexico, in some states the bride's family pays for the wedding. In some central states, where I was born, it is the groom's family that pays for it. Fortunately in our case, both of us are professionals so DH paid for everything. I only bought his ring. He wanted me to focus on paying off my credit card debt! lol