Is anyone else having a Dessert-Only reception?

You're having an afternoon wedding with a two hour drive to the reception location for cake and pie at dinner time?

Im confused... What time is your ceremony start time? What time is your Reception start time?

ETA: words are bad today

If that's true, that's wrong. I'm sorry.

So, living in a largely LDS populated area, I go to dessert-only receptions ALL THE TIME. I've seen good ones and I've seen bad ones. My advice: DO NOT DO IT AT DINNER TIME. There is nothing sadder than heading to a wedding and figuring out it's seven and all you have is cheesecake. Sad.

Is there no hotel or b&b that's closer to where you're getting married? 2 hours drive there and back is a long drive. If you're back around a meal time you need to provide meals for your guests. Cake and pie during dinner time will not do.

Is the two hour drive (each way) for just you or are all of your guests doing that?

Bad, bad, bad, bad idea. Why would you host a reception at dinner time if you are only providing desserts? I get hangry when I have low blood sugar, so I would probably stay for all of 30 minutes before I decided I needed to leave to go get some food.

Also why are you having a two hour drive between the places? That in itself also seems crazy to me!

Please don't have your ring ceremony and drop in reception start at 7 and only provide dessert. Especially if you are asking any of your guests to make a 4 hour round trip.

I'm confused about the 4 hour round trip. Is your reception really two hours away from the church? That's a crazy amount of time to spend in the car regardless of what's being served

Can you clarify your timeline so we can give you better suggestions?

I'm assuming this is an LDS wedding where the couple marries early at the temple and none of the guests are invited. They have a reception in the late afternoon/evening for the non-LDS and non-temple worthy.

If you're not marrying at a temple, this is hella rude. But we've already disagreed on your facebook invites so I don't think my advice is going to be helpful.

Wait..what?

Are you getting married at the temple?

Guys, she may be getting married at the temple AKA not everyone will be invited to the ceremony. That's not weird. It is very much part of the religion. Mine is the same way except the temple is only fifteen minutes from the venue. But, some temples are not as close to things as others so this may be her best option.

A 5 star poster wants to serve just ake to her guests?

Can you please clarify for everyone? Bc right now you're having people eat only cake at a meal time which makes very little sense.

If I drove 4 hours in 1 afternoon for your wedding and you fed me a piece of pie I would cut you. And I am sorry but that is all I can say about it.

You want dessert only? You have a 2 pm reception.

If your reception is at dinner time, you need to serve some type of meal. Cake and cookies won't cut it.

Listen to Swin and give OP time to respond before we tell her what a terrible, terrible idea this sounds like!

I'm a cheerleader for your wedding, future Mrs. Wade. However...what really hit me was a two hour drive for a dessert reception.

Educate us...what is considered conventional for an LDS reception? I have a cousin who converted from Catholicism to Mormonism thirty years ago. His parents flew to Utah for his 1980-something wedding, but they weren't permitted inside the temple to attend the ceremony. They've adjusted over the years. That cousin had four kids who are all members of the LDS faith. My other cousins, his siblings, have explained how different the LDS weddings/receptions are from those we Catholics are accustomed to.

Are your guests willing to do this two hour trip?

Ok, I see the confusion before I even get to the end of the page.

For those of you not LDS, not everyone gets to go to the wedding. Only those that are members in good standing will drive the 2 hrs, and they don't have to. My kids don't even get to come in with me, so really I think we're asking the Bishop and a friend of mine that I went to school with and lives down there, and my very best friend in our ward. This is typical of LDS temple marriages because they can only accommodate so many. I think about 30, is the number I've heard around.

The reception, is actually going to be held in my home ward building, so that it is convenient for everybody. Most around here eat at about 5-5:30, I know because when they send out Compassionate service e-mails it states the time the families must have their meals by.

Also, we only get the building for 2 hrs, and since Sunday services start at 10 on Sunday, we can't keep people too late. Plus there's clean-up. So 7-9 is what seemed to work best with all the time constraints provided by the church, the drive, everyone's dinner times, etc...

And, everyone will know in advance to that "desserts on us", and won't be expecting a full size sit down buffet style dinner. Besides, I've seen the chaos that creates in church, and there is NO WAY I can handle that on my wedding day, This was the nice compromise that means those that *want* to be there CAN, without putting my anxiety in overdrive causing me to more or less "elope" without telling anyone, and risk hurting peoples feelings.