Is anyone else just mad?

View Quoted Comment There are a lot of things to look forward to, youre right. I was pretty upset when I posted this, but all these comments are making feel a lot better about it.

View Quoted Comment Same!! If I hadn’t spent all that money it wouldn’t upset me so much, bc I did want to throw an awesome party, and I don’t think it’s wrong to think the reception is a party. I wanted to elope in the first place, but my husband wanted a wedding and I felt like if I was gonna get married I was gonna do it big!

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Eri, would you be willing to share the FB group you’re a part of? I’d like to check it out!

I get the frustration. Covid sucks, and has ruined one of the biggest days of our lives. I think COVID is absolutely legit as an excuse, but what bothers me about it is the people who had previously said they would join our micro wedding, but then declined. That really bothered me bc we were very select on the few friends we reached out to - like I could have offered that seat to someone else, so thanks for wasting my time and energy. Also, a pretty immediate family member of my FH has decided not to come due to COVID and not wanting to leave her kids (which again, yes I get it) but she never actually reached out to us herself. We heard it through two other people. No text, no call, nothing. I just find it pretty rude. It’s a pandemic and no one is at fault or to blame, but unfortunately we are all paying the price this year.

View Quoted Comment That’s pretty rude of her! And of course covid is a legit excuse for those who are taking it seriously. But for the same people that aren’t taking it seriously to all of sudden care about the amount of people in a room, it just doesn’t add up. That’s one of new pet peeves right now, people asking me how many will be there! Gee I don’t know, if I could get anyone to RSVP I’d be able to tell you, but as of right now, 20, but it could be 100, idk, can I put you down for chicken or beef?

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I feel you. I can understand their question, though (hear me out lol). In the hopes of being helpful, try looking at it from their perspective. The risk of exposure increases tremendously based on how many people are present. Not only to them, but to others they come into contact with afterward. As someone who is taking this seriously and isolating most of the time, I would not feel comfortable being at an event with 100 people. 20, maybe... but def not more. I trust that my very tiny "pod" of people I interact with are being safe and careful, but I don't really trust anyone beyond that. We decided to keep our max number at 20 guests for this year, and stated that on our invites so that people knew it would be very small. We still had some declines, and it sucks, but it is the situation right now and we can't change it. My emotions change on the daily. One minute I'm excited, and the next I'm angry, crying, and over it all. I would not wish this situation on anyone, yet here we are. Just try to focus on the positive - answer the annoying questions, and at the end of the day, less guests means less money to shell out lol.

I'm not mad about people not coming because of Covid, I am mad about the people who are using it as an excuse not to come but have no problem going out to restaurants, go out of town, or have their own gatherinhs with friends and family and posting about it on social media but yet say they can't come because they're concerned about covid lol

View Quoted Comment You just put into words what I meant! Covid is real and a reasonable reason to not want to a attend a wedding. But to go out and about not taking precautions in any other instance is just insulting.
My own step mother considered not coming, but she goes to get her nails and hair done, and then locks herself in the house. She’s so terrified of covid but would risk it for her nails, but considered not risking it for my wedding

I’m more angry at people making us feel guilty that we aren’t planning to postpone our wedding a second time. We’re asking how many would feel more comfortable to zoom for family members that are concerned about the pandemic and travel, but we’re ready to have our special day next year - even if that’s just the two of us and close family.