Is anyone else mourning the loss of their last name?

I get more excited every day to become a Sarcone instead of Arcuri... my mother kept her maiden name when my parents got married years ago, so i know how confused people get when u introduce your parents and youre mothers last name is different lol....other then the fact that ill prolly out of habit keep writing my original last name for a while, i have no reservations about taking my FH's last name

I'm still undecided. I never wanted to change my name. I'll have published articles with my maiden name, so I'll keep my name for work no matter what. But FS really wants me to take his name (family will have same name, etc). My middle name is 2 syllables (6 letters), my last name is 3 syllables (7 letters), and FS last name is 3 syllables (8 letters). Combined with my long first name, I don't think I can keep mine and add his. So many families have different last names..I'm not sure it matters too much anymore.

I'll be going from Kaufman (used to spelling it out since there are so many spellings) to Scaduto (not the easiest last name either.) But really I AM Carly Kaufman- I have been for 28 years. I've established myself professionally as Carly Kaufman, and really what it comes down to is I LIKE MY NAME! It is who I am! How do I get over that while changing it?

I don't really have any ties to my last name, so I am super excited to take his. Plus I want our kids to have the same last name as both of us.

I'm actually excited. I like my last name but i'm not super attached to it. And I'm really looking forward to being the Brickeys! Corny, I know... but its the little things.

I honestly would rather keep my last name. I decided to wait as long as I possibly could before I changed my last name.

Im excited me and my fs are both irish so im going from clark to mcdevitt i like mcdevitt soo much more than clark..clark is way to commen

No- I'm excited!

Carly, can you keep your name professionally and use his name is other aspects?

I'm not sure what you do but I'm in science so I'll still use my last name with his at the end but just his outside of that.

Oh my heavens!!! Thank goodness I'm not alone! I never ever thought I would have an issue with the whole last name thing... but now that I know I'm going to actually be doing it... it feels so strange. Not sad or anything like that... just strange. Like I've been Vera Glikman for 30 years..... how am I not going to be Vera Glikman anymore???

Oh just wanted to add, I'm excited to take his last names I just wish it weren't all complicated. And sad to be losing mine, though not completely since it will become my middle name.

My name now is Breanne Bucka (no middle name)... I'm not sure how I feel about "Breanne Redin", and I love my last name... but Breanne Bucka Redin sounds worse! I'm probably just gunna take Redin and suck it up.

I'm completely excited Mostly because I don't have any real strong emotional attachments to my last night, also because my FH asked me to take his last name AND I like spelling it outloud to people -- F U _ _ _ _. haha!!! The other day he had someone say "excuse me" when he was spelling out the last name but he doesn't pause or anything between the FU and the rest of the spelling... so they just jumped to conclusions. It makes me giggle every time I think about it.

Yes, I am. I'm going from one complicated last name (I don't think it's complicated, but others do) to one that is even more complicated. I guess I'm already used to having to spell out my name for people, so it's not a huge change. But I feel like I'm leaving my family (parents) by changing my last name... which I guess is true in a way, but I feel like it's so dramatic for some reason.

In my first marriage, I changed my name. It made me incredibly depressed. More than I could have ever anticipated. I mourned the change, because in many ways with that marriage I ceased to exist as a person in my own right. The loss of my name just excaberated that feeling. And, frankly, his name was just so boring!

My fiance said it would mean a lot to him if I took his name, but I still said no. I said if he wanted us to match, he was welcome to take my name. He started going on about his identity, heritage, professional reputation, etc. I gave him a look and said, "exactly!" He got it right quick, and hasn't brought it up since.

Names aren't forever. I could change my mind, and take his name as a 10th anniversary present. Or I could stay Shannon S. forever. If someone calls me Mrs. D, I don't intend to be hostile about it, but I will gently correct them.

I actually kept my last name and its my new middle name, since I didnt have a middle name

Not at all. I will forever be Ty W. (My new last name starts with W)

I want to hyphenate but he doesn't want me to. *sigh*

We decided to leave my name ( I was married once before and went back to my maiden name after the divorce and all 3 kids have my name) later he might take my name..not sure.

But I did want to keep my name this time.It means alot to me and my name is much more uncommon.

Oh! I forgot to put in there that I don't feel like I'm losing my identity. I mean, I'll still be myself. I'll just now be Mrs. FH and will be starting a new point in my life. This is also why I'm glad that I'm getting married young because I don't have much of a professional identity to worry about... if I was in my own private practice and had some publications and whatnot, I would seriously consider keeping my last name. But, like I said, I don't feel attached to it at all because it's just a name. And, FH asked me to take his last name and at the end of the day, that is what matters

I can't wait to have his last name. Mine is VERY hard to pronounce but at the same time I will miss it. (We get Le-beaver and Le-fever ALOT. lol) I'll still be me without it but it's going to feel a little weird for a while.