Is anyone else mourning the loss of their last name?

MEEEEEE! I love my last name so much. But in the end I decided to change it.

I really dont want to drop my last name either cause it just feels so weird. I feel like I'm losing a huge part of me, but I think I'm going to suck it up and become Mrs. Johnson!

I was adamant about not changing my name. MY Drivers License came up for renewal right after the wedding and Rick whined like a little bitch about adding his name. So I did the hyphen thing on my DL. That's the only thing I've changed. Even my signature on my DL is the same. I'm supposed to go change it with the social security office, not done yet. and I'm certainly not changing my green card and passport for a long time. Too much money and stress and I don't want to not be able to go see my family in a few months because the INS can't get their crap together. lol

Oh and let's not forget my notary and escrow license for work. I refuse to change my signature, the squiggle at the end will have to be Andrews..lol

You don't have to change it, you know. I still have the last name I was born with, which I kept during my 20 years of marriage to my ex-husband and kept again on my second marriage to NotFroofy. My view is that if your fiance wants you two to have the same name, he can change his. And if he's not willing to, then he needs to understand that you may feel the same way.

Yes, i feel the same way! but i am changing my middle name to my current last name, that way i can keep it

After about a month of having to spell my last name to everyone,, I am ready to go back to my maiden name..... no one screws up Wilson!!

LOL . . . . I actually suggested that he take my name or that we combine the two. ;-) We both have pretty common first names and his last name is VERY common. My last name isn't common at all. (Just to give you an idea, when we applied for a loan there was one person with the same exact name as him and over 100 with the same first and last name.) His father left his mom when he was less than 6 months old, so he never really knew his dad and thus doesn't have much of a connection to the family name. When we started talking about names he was a little upset that I suggested he change his name. It isn't about family to him, but it is his identity. When I tried to explain that my name was my identity I didn't get anywhere! He is a really easy going guy, so I was surprised this bothered him so much. We don't really have a decision and won't have to make one for a little over a year so we will see what happens. Right now I am not sure!

I have a very unique maiden name, I may be the only person in the world with the first name/last name combo. My FS has a pretty common last name of a completely dfferent nationality. I googled my first name with his last name and there are TONS of us all over the US, not to mention the country of his famlies origins.

In the end, I know I am going to be sad to give up that unique identity and confused as to what to expect taking on last name of a nationality I clearly am not (I am European, the last name is Asian).

I feel the same way. Not only am i losing my last name Im moving out of my home state. Im going to miss my last name because my name was very unique in which I could make a full cirlc with my first and last name. Once I get married I wont be able to do that.

Im keeping both!

Yes!!! It’s so comforting to know that I’m not alone! Before the wedding I was so excited to change it but now that it’s actually here, I’m having a really hard time letting it go… I feel like I’m having an identity crisis & I’ve literally cried about it! I think I’ll probably just end up hyphenating it so I can keep my last name but take on his as well & still have the same name connection with our future kids.
Chanelle DeVore-Vito 🤷🏻‍♀️