Is anyone else worried about their FH's bachelor party?

I sympathize for you. Perhaps you should look into why you feel he may cheat.

Upside, awesome for him to have a lovely trip. I have my own reservations about my FH's bach party, esp since it's being planned by his Matron-yes, matron- of Honor. I feel like it won't be a whole lot about him but I've just not dealt with it.

Oh and by the way his response to your concerns, in my personal opinion, shows his immaturity and disrespect to your feelings. Perhaps there are other things (like counseling) you two should focus on as a couple before looking forward to your "last single night".

just an opinion not a fact.

I just feel bad for FI b/c I think he is going to get something he doesn't want! His brother is a womanizing PIG and I think he will want to hire strippers and go all out (and he has the money to do so) whereas FI said he just wants to go to a local bar with some of his friends. He said he does not want to got to a strip club or have a big party or travel anywhere. I have mentioned, and will continue to try for, a night where the guys go out and the girls go out then we meet up at the end of the night since we both know we wanna go home together that night. We will see!

Me and my FH arent having seperate partys we are just gonna have one big party and after me adn my girls are going and staying at my moms well him and his boys stay at my brothers

I totally understand you and I know my FH loves me to death but we have decided not to have a bachelor party. We might get the bridal party together for a bbq or maybe the girls go to a spa and the guys out to drinks but neither one of us will be going to a club or anything like that. I wouldnt be able to have fun without him there. But for us its not that big of a deal o guess. Ik his friends and cousins are gonna think he is crazy for listening to me And not having a stripclub night but idc if thats what makes us happy then thats what we are doing

I would never marry someone who I thought would cheat on me period. If there is no trust, there is no relationship.

My brother (best man) and 8 of FHs closest friends are flying down to New Orleans (where my brother lives) for a weekend. All expenses paid for FH, and he won't know until the day before he leaves. I'm in on the planning because I know his schedule. I trust FH without a doubt. His friends and my brother would never let him do anything to disrespect me because they all love me. Not to mention, FH has brought up a few times that he doesn't care if he even has a bachelor party because the "party boy" scene just isn't him anymore. He's mid-30s and over it.

If your husbands friends are bad influences and they don't care enough about you to let your FH disrespect you, then he needs new friends. Also, you should re-evaluate your relationship with him if you seriously think he would cheat on you, his FW.

I have the same kind of concerns (not about the cheating), about him getting too drunk and it leading to problems. When he drinks liquor, he tends to seperate himself from his group and gets lost. Luckily we're doing a combo thing in New Orleans. We used to go every year, and I don't mind strippers/strip clubs at all.

Ummm I have several concerns with your post:

1) You are worried about him "cheating". Why? Where is the trust in your relationship?

2) You are worried about him using drugs? Really? And this is someone you want to marry?

3) You seem to think he is naive, gullible, and dumm. "Someone may stuff him full of drugs"....

Forget worrying about the bachelor party I think you need to rethink what you are signing on for!

I didn't have any concerns about my DH (FH then) for the bachelor party. I told the two guys planning it that there could not be anything illegal and nothing permanent i.e. tattoos. But I also knew what was going on as my dad was also invited to the party and he got the schedule e-mailed to him and I had to drop him off. Yes, it involved strip clubs which I was fine with.

They ended up going go-carting, then to a Brazilian Steak House for dinner, to a couple bars for drinks and then ended the night at a strip club. My DH got really drunk, had fun, got a couple dances at the strip club, crashed at his Best Man's house and was really, really hung over the next day. All in all, good times were had by all.

If I was worried about my FH cheating one me, we certainly wouldn't be getting married.

I only worry that his party will be boring - he just wants to go gambling, but he already goes to Vegas once or twice a year as it is. But I know his best man is planning something fun so I'm not concerned!

I agree with Future Mrs. Schmidt..I really don't like his response to you..Instead of comforting you he responds in that manner..even if it's in jest. Was he mad that you don't trust him, is that why he said that? He can get into trouble in any country..but I do think it's strange that they have to go to Columbia for a short bachelor trip..Are you afraid that they are going to get prostitutes? If it's just jitters about him being in a different country than you, it's understandable. I know my mind would run wild thinking of all the horrible things that could happen..But if they are legitimate trust concerns I think you need to reevaluate your level of trust/security in the relationship and have a conversation with your FH.

Nope. I'm marrying Matthew because I trust him to not be a dick in any circumstance or use it with anyone other than me.

FH and I aren't doing bach/bachelorettes. If you're concerned, sort it out within yourself whether it's your fiance you aren't trusting or the general idea of him going to Colombia. Do you trust his friends? Do you trust him? Is this general anxiety, or a red flag? If you ask him not to go, would he cancel his trip? Would you expect him to?

Because you're the only one who can figure this out.

I'm worried he'll fall and ruin his face for our Wedding.

Not at all. I trust him and his friends respect our relationship.

Though Colombia seems wicked cool!

Not worried he'll cheat - I couldn't marry someone who I fear will cheat on me during one night of drinking. I'm more worried that he'll pass out at a table and the others will be too drink to pick him up.

You mean Colombia as in South America? If so, the country is spelled Colombia.

Anywho... That's quite the bachelor party. Since I have friends from Colombia and know how the women look ...I would think some funny business would go down. The women the are beautiful. In saying all that. .. If you trust FH then don't worry.

Good catch ^

So you don't trust your future husband? Weird, but OK.

I am not worried in the least. I told my fiance that he better have strippers at his bachelor party. I trust him 100%.