Is anyone else worried about their FH's bachelor party?

Sounds like bigger problems than a bachelor party, frankly.

To answer your earlier question:

When my FH get's too drunk he shits outside. True story. or he loses his wallet and cellphone.

He does a million stupid things but he would never put himself in a position where he would cheat.

Would he go to a strip club, yes! would he talk with random girls? probably. Would he end up in a Hotel room with them? NO.

If your FH gets lured by a stripper or any other girl, then he doesn't have a very strong resolve. If YOU get lured by some guy for any reason, you don't have very strong resolve. My H is much better looking than I and I don't doubt that girls would like to put their hands (and more) on him, but he's strong enough to say, "Get off me."

Getting drunk and losing your mind is an excuse for terrible behavior. As drunk as I've been in my life, I've never cheated on any of my boyfriends or on H (in fact, it was great being drunk and coming home WITH him); I've never done anything that I would regret or try to excuse as "Oh, I was just drunk." No, you're just a whore. (You being a general you, not specifically anyone on this thread, before anyone gets their panties twisted.)

@Reenski haha my FH is better looking then me too!

I was worried & got upset. I'm uncomfortable with the idea of him getting a lap dance or anything like that & I did express it and he promised not to involve strippers. We have been together 5 years & he has never gone to a strip club & doesn't like them, but some of his relatives like them.

Then I got worried again at a later date that he wouldn't tell his best man no strippers because he wouldn't want to get made fun of. I'm anxiety prone & he assured me again he knows how important it is to me.

Mostly I wouldn't want my view of him to be tarnished. I don't want to feel let down, but I was never worried about him cheating, he would never.

@Mrs K - He doesn't deserve a bachelor party but he deserves you as a wife?

@DlovesD - I get where you are coming from. I would be a little uneasy if FH wanted a really big bachelor party in Colombia. All you can do is trust him and try to outdo him

"I told him that i'm worried about him cheating and he said if he wanted to cheat he doesn't have to go to Columbia for it so i got over it a BIT."

I haven't read through all 6 pages of comments but this sentence alone is enough for me to be super mad at you for letting him disrespect you. Seriously? If he wants to cheat, his butt needs to be single.

Mine just wants to do paintball and ride 4wheelers. They'll drink and have fun, but he's not the crazy type.

Sorry to say this... but you really CAN judge a person by who they surround themselves with. Your FH's friends sould like a bunch of douchebags. I would be worried if I were you, too.

No, because we sat down and talked about guidelines for each of our parties. No alcohol/drugs. No stripping or any other half-naked people. No permanent things such as tattoos. Also, we are to call each other at least once during the time just to say "I love you!"

We're really conservative people and I'm sure will have a good time regardless.

Also, this "He has actually never lied to me. when he is out with his friends he always calls me and checks up on me, when I go out without him (which is rare) he calls a million times and finds excuses to invite himself lol. ", is a BIG red flag to me. Controlling much?

Nope I am not worried, if I was worried that something might happen I wouldn't be engaged to him let alone marry him

"Strippers are dirty and will do ANYTHING for an extra buck."

Untrue.

Oh I am! I know my FH's friends and I know they are crazy! I just worry about one of them getting hurt! lol.

I don't worry about FH cheating. I worry about his friends trying to get him to a strip club (which i am VERY MUCH against), and I worry about them getting drunk and doing something stupid. I asked his best man to do it at least a month before the wedding so the cuts and bruises have time to heal. seriously

I wanted to go to Vegas for mine and my FH said yeah right he didn't like the idea. So we are most likely staying here but w.e he does I mean a bachelor party isn't about cheating or girls its about having fun with your guys like a guys night out. That's how I see it at least

I trust my fiancé completely but I just don't see why guys think a bachelor party needs to be a weekend or multiple day party. What happened to bachelor(ette) parties being one night and coming home the next day. His best man would completely cover the trip for him to Vegas but I just don't think its fair for him to take a trip with his friends when he and I haven't had a trip together yet. I think we should both do something similar so that one of us doesn't feel left out.

I'm not worried about him at all because I trust him. More just jealous that he gets to go to Vegas for his bachelor party and worried that he might spend too much! And possibly that I will have to deal with an extensive hangover when he gets home... My MOH and BM (I only have the two) ironically both just moved across the country so they're coming in special just for the wedding. I pretty much figure that there will be no bachelorette party!

Wow, so many people got on my back about me not trusting him going to Colombia when a lot of you are worried about strip clubs.

Someone mentioned me changing my mind and telling him not to go and it being a red flag... BUT i didn't change my mind... I never said i didn't trust my FH (you ladies all implied on it) I said i'm worried about girls drugs and other legal trouble because they party "hangover" style. I don't trust his friends and under the influence of alcohol and friends anything can happen.

I would never tell my FH not to go somewhere... he is not my child he is my man. If he wants to go to Columbia that's where he'll go but i will always worry. The same way i worry when he goes out with his boys till 6am, i wake up every hour to make sure he is alive and well.

He never cheated on me and never gave me a reason to but he is not the only person i've been with and lessons learned should never be forgotten.

PS - i really regret starting this thread. All i asked was if anyone worried about bachelor parties I in no way asked for advise on how to deal with my relationship or whether i should be marrying my FH.... not sure why everyone is trying to "FIX" my situation that doesn't exist. It was just a question.... If someone would start a thread that they are nervous about their big day coming up, will everyone jump on them saying that they shouldn't be getting married? Please get off my back.