Is anyone having 2 officiants?

My best friend did. She had one person do the primary ceremony but the other did the readings and the sand ceremony. They didn't actually share the official ceremony part. I think that could get awkward.

Asking FH's father to do the prayers, readings, and any special components of the ceremony might work. Also the blessing of the food at dinner.

I have not seen it, but think it would be quite awkward. I think your pastor would understand- it's FH's DAD, not some random guy you happen to know who can legally officiate weddings.

I think it would be awkward too. I just think it's disrespectful to refuse the pastor, especially since he's been my pastor since I was in high school. But I like EDubbsGirl's idea with having prayers and readings done by one officiant and the primary ceremony done by the other. I don't know. I'm torn between making FH happy and making the church happy.

Which is your priority? FH should be! If it was his pastor versus your pastor, it would be different. But this is his father, your father in law! Don't worry about making the church happy- because your pastor will probably be thrilled that you are marrying into such a religious family! He may be a bit disappointed he isn't officiating YOUR wedding , but he should also completely understand why! It's your FIL!

I do think having your pastor do some things- maybe offer a prayer or a small welcome speech or do a reading would be a really good compromise.

You're right Meghan! I'm trying to make everyone 100% happy, but I just don't think that's going to happen. So yes, FH should (and is) my top priority.

I have seen it but usually one pastor do the actual wedding ceremony and the other one do the preaching (if any) or the blessing of the wedding.

When my friends were getting married, the bride had her pastor do the ceremony, and his pastor did the last prayer which is the blessing of the wedding.

I will be having two pastors because they're both my pastors, a senior and an assistant pastor, the senior pastor will do everything and the assistant pastor will only do reading and say a few words on the reading.

I'm also a little worried about their "styles" meshing. My pastor is Methodist and FH's dad is non-denominational. I should stop worrying. I'm sure everything will work out

I've worked with quite a few officiants who were either family members or of a totally different faith. Usually, I do most of the service and the other officiant will do prayers, the ring blessing, or in the case of a rabbi, of course, the glass breaking and signing of the ketuba. I've never found it to be a problem at all. I suspect that your FH's dad will not want to upstage your church pastor if only as a professional courtesy. He may ALSO want to enjoy the wedding, lol......without it being a "work day".

It will all work out; most of us ministers are very used to collaborating on all kinds of events, and I think it'll be wonderful; their styles don't have to mesh; they just need to compliment each other.

At my nephew's wedding, his bride's grandfather did the "unofficial" parts of the ceremony and the church's minister did the "official" bits.

I've co-officiated a few ceremonies. The other person handled the religious or non-official parts and I did what was legally required & signed the license.

I'm sure both pastors are familiar with the idea and there won't be any turf wars!

My FBIL had 2 officiants at his wedding both his dad and his wifes dad are pastors so they both did the ceremony. FFIL did the "official" parts and the FSIL father did the prayers and readings. It wasnt awkward at all and really made the ceremony more personal.

In my first wedding, my pastor and a catholic preast both officated the wedding. The wedding was held in my church. My ex husband's family is very catholic and refused to come to the service if we did not have a catholic priest perform the vows. Unfortunately, the priest did not sign our marriage liscence so in his family's eyes our wedding was not official. Oh well!

We are having my brother and my cousin co-officiate our wedding. We wrote the entire ceremony ourselves and handed them both a copy of the ceremony and told them they would have to hash it out between them as to who was going to say what. We're looking to have quite a lot of fun invoked into our wedding and this was one way to get it, cuz we have NO idea as to what is going to happen.

So it can all work out. Talk to them, I'm sure they have done it many times.

Thanks everyone! You've put me to ease. I will talk to them both and we'll work it out

Good Morning,

My husband and I performed a ceremony together. I did the verbage for the groom and he did the vergabe for the bride. (We doing an english and spanish wedding) However, it turned out really well and it went just as smooth as a wedding with 1 officient. I think its a nice way to incorporate everyone you love and appreciate into your wedding. Its a special day and one you will remember forever, why not involve as many people as possible that mean alot to you. I think both Pastors will be honored to perform the ceremony together for you and your FH. If you have any questions, feel free to send me an email. I wish you the best on your beautiful day.

When I married my brother (who is an ordained minister) wanted to be a part of the ceremony. My church pastor performed the ceremony and my brother did the prayer and blessed us. It worked out perfectly!

Im having one do the talk and another do the vows

I know this was written years ago, but I would love if you would share a copy of the ceremony with me. Two of my brothers are ordained ministers and the are officiating my wedding, I am looking for it to me a little side comedy act and would love ideas to suggest to them!