I've seen other questions like this and they were told no but their circumstances were different.
I'm getting married in 3 months but we are not planning on having our wedding party yet. We're just getting legally married now to start some paper work but will have the party later on.
For now we're just planning on having a small dinner celebration with the closest family and friends, 14 people max. Since it's not our official party and we won't even get actually married at the dinner I was wondering if it's ok to ask my guests to pay for what they consume. We're not expecting gifts of any kind and we are giving desserts and thank you favors (brownies) but we don't think our budget can cover the dinner.
Would this be seen as rude? Should we try to make it work and pay ourselves?