Is it ok to be having 2 separate ceremonies?

So I have the same kind of uneven wedding. We're having two "weddings" (one is really just a reception) that are about 4 months apart because we're getting married in California 2 weeks before Christmas and I am from the Boston area originally. Our wedding, which is about 100 invitees, breaks down as: 35 are my people (with only 2, my parents, being actual blood family) and 65 are his (including family and friends). At first I was a little self conscious of this, but in the end its the people we want there on our actual day, without worrying that we are forcing my family to drop thousands to fly across country 2 weeks before Christmas.

While I understand wanting to appease everyone - at the end of the day its your wedding. And if having the two ceremonies and dinner will make you happy - go for it. But if it's going to stress you out and make you wish everyone you want at the second ceremony was at the first - then have your fiancé talk to his family and have them understand that while you respect how they feel, its your wedding and you two have decided to have just the one ceremony. That no one will care or notice how many members of family will be there, they'll be too focused on you.

I was sincerely worried that I would look pathetic having just my parents there as my family. But at the end of it all, those are the two people that matter to me the most to be there. My friends will be there, and my new family will be there.

Well I understand why you are doing it too keep the drama down but at least his parents could add a few ppl on his end. How ever you have to do what you think is best instead of 1 party you'll have 2 as long as you have your husband lol .

Will everyone know what the authentic program is? If your partner comes from a certain type of culture will they be ok with a "second signing" knowing it's just ceremonial?