Is it really true? After marriage, friends just stop hanging out?

I don't really hang out with single friends anymore. Not because I have a fiance and they don't but because we are living two very different life styles now. I don't care to party or stay out late, I'd rather be home with my honey or have another couple over who likes to do the same boring things.

Also, when you have kids, your group of friends may change again because you tend to hang with other women who know what you're going through and have kiddos that can play with yours.

Not really. But when you think about it. Do you really want to 'disturb' a new couple during their 'honeymoon' period? LOL (not saying that's what you did!)

It happens. People get engaged and sometimes, you never hear or see them until the wedding (if your invited) and sometimes after they get married they kind of take refuge in the bedroom, if you know what I mean! I think that eventually they go back to their friends and hanging out. But if it goes on for a while and they still don't come or respond, I'd leave them be. When they get back to the stage of going out and about, they'll realize they missed out on ALOT.

I will give you an example:

I sent out an evite for an event next month to about 30 people. All but 5 have RSVPd yes or no. The rest never even bothered to respond after looking at it.

One person who never responded just sent me an email and said "HEY! We should get a group together and do something!"

So I responded, "Hey! what about the event that Im hosting next month?"

I send the email and within 5 minutes, she RSVPs "no" and never writes me an email back.

This truely makes me sad. Really.

No, we are sort of back and forth, i mean sometimes we hang out every day for a week straight and other times we go months without hanging out. Life gets super crazy sometimes!

FMS: You're right.....this particular couple just got married in October and we havent seen them since except right when they got back from their honeymoon to show off the pictures of the trip.

We try to get together on the weekends, but they leave out of the town for skiing at a resort we dont have tickets to. :-(

I'm not married yet, but I had assumed married couples don't really hang out with friends, especially single friends. But I recently rekindled so to speak a friendship wtih a friend that recently got married, we talked about hanging out more, her hubby works on the weekends away. I'm excited about that since my FH lives far from me..But bottom line ladies, IMO it is so important to keep hanging out with friends, also to have a friend couple too that you both mesh with (easier said than done tho!). This can be important in helping to make sure you have a fuller life. Also, it's just plain healthy! :-)

It sounds like she is one of those people who say "Let's hang out sometime" or "Call me!" or "I'll call you!" and never does. OR she genuinely could have other plans that day.

When your married it is really hard hanging out with single ppl every once and while its ok (at least in my house) but my single friends tend to party too much for my liking these days.I agree with AB Z find couples that both you and your spouse enjoy hanging out with makes life much easier.

We are definately trying to have a circle of friends, but it is so darn hard to get stuff planned out...especially if they just got married, having babies, etc.

UGH...

Im def a sad panda right now.

Sometimes you grow apart from your single friends and start doing couple things. True friends will still be there though. I know that us being engaged have done a lot less with our friends a lot more together. However, this is such a busy time for us. I shhh dont tell my work took a sick day today and yesterday as did my fiancée so we can have some much needed us time. Just being with him has been amazing! Our work schedules make it hard to spend quality time together.

I found that when newly wed, I didn't really want to go out and party... I wanted to stay home with my new hubby. So, "losing" friends when newlywed is kind of a 2 party 'fail'. Friends don't want to bother the new couple and the new couple doesn't really want to go out. Eventually, you find that you're ready to do stuff but prefer to do it as a couple. When you have kids.. you'll find that babies are all you have to talk about and for single people, that's monotonous. I'm generalizing of course but found it to be true. Your real friends are there for you through it all.

Well, I sent an email to her pretty much saying that I value our friendship and I hope that we can see through this tough time. I just hope I hear from her. :-(

I think that a newly married couple are going to put a lot of their spare time into their relationship, and that will come at the cost of other friendships. If I were you I would look for other supportive friends also, perhaps not in their honeymoon phase. Also you have the WW team - tell us what you feel comfortable telling us about this tough time you are going through and we will help you out as best we can.

I don't hang out with a lot of my single friends anymore.. I'm not interested in partying every weekend, and spending all my money at the bar, I have a mortgage and car payments, and bills... my single friends live at home, and don't know what responsibility is like. (I'm mainly thinking of one friend here.. lol) as I grow and change, so does my circle of friends. True friends are always there for you, no matter what.

When I was married the first time, we were the first in our crowd to get married. We had a choice, either get dressed and party hardy(wasting money) with our single friends on the weekends, or save for a house. We did the latter.

It's not that you lose friends, it's just that the dynamics of the friendship change. Perhaps you only see them at bday parties, things like that.

Eventualy, as a married couple, you will meet other married couples and become friends with them. You will have gatherings that are just couples. When your single friends get married, that friendship will rekindle. When you have children, you acquire even more friends via Mommy and Me groups and things like that.

I second Fun Bride T!

@Mr. Bigglesworth I am meaning no disrespect but that is not a fair generalization. All single people do not go out and party excessively. Some of us are introvert and like to spend time with close loved ones at home or go out everyone once in awhile. Do not assume that just because someone is single that they like to party and stay out late because that is not always the case. I cannot speak for all single people but some single people may only go out for the sake of dating so that they can find that special someone. Everyone is different regardless of what their marital status is. Also some single women have children themselves. In order to maintain any relationship communication, time, and effort from both parties is important.

@Michelle This is not generalizable to all single people because some of us are introverted and do not care to go out an party. Some single people like to stay home and spend time with close friends and others possibly go out so they can date and find their special person. Some single people are lonely, and some single people are not lonely and enjoy their status. I have single friends who are hermits and do not like to go out and would rather stay to themselves or have only a close circle to spend their time with.