Is it rude to bring food to a vegan wedding if they are only serving vegan food?

I would be worried that they would get in trouble with their venue or caterer if someone brought outside food. I would be annoyed but probably would just eat a big lunch and swing by a drive thru on the way home.

Just eat before the wedding

I think it would be rude to bring your own food. I am not Vegan, but I have no problem eating vegan food and think it taste good. So I don’t really see why you can’t just eat the provided food. That being said, I do think it would be nice of the bride to provide a vegan and non-vegan option for her guests. But it is her wedding, so she can do what she wants.

I don’t think it’s rude of her to serve food that she can eat at her own wedding.

What would be your motivation for bringing your own food? Why are you against the vegan food how do you know it won’t be very good...

I'm not vegan, and wouldn't bring outside food to the wedding. They are serving a meal others can eat, albeit maybe not a meal the guests want to eat.

If I was considered about being hungry, I'd eat before/after and have a protein bar or something in the car.

1. I don't think she is necessarily thinking of guest experience unless all or most her guests are vegan, and I think guest experience is super important for receptions. I don't think it's AS bad as not providing any vegetarian options for vegetarians, since non-vegans can still eat vegan food. We had a vegetarian option available and 100% knew none of our guests were vegetarian, we didn't want to risk it so we still had the option.

2. I would feel SO tacky bringing my own food to a wedding, I'd be horrified. Like I just pull out a tupperware at a wedding? If I felt like I wouldn't enjoy the food at a wedding, I'd eat prior and just snack at the wedding, then eat after the wedding. All the vegan food I've ever had (which isn't much - maybe 3 restaurants in my life) has been pretty awful but I've had plenty of awful wedding food that included meat, seafood, eggs, etc. so I don't think that's a vegan specific quality.

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Hahaha omg I'm literally imagining someone with tupperware! This was all speculation, since there was a news article going around of the reverse where a vegan brought her own food to a wedding so the thought was, what if the reverse happened. Not sure if she popped out tupperware or not though!

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I would be HORRIFIED if a vegan brought her own food to our wedding! 1, our venue wouldn't allow it and neither would our caterer and 2, how tacky can you be?!?!?! JUST EAT BEFORE!!! Hahahahaha!

Our friends just got married and had an all-vegan catered reception. Neither FH or I are vegan or
even vegetarian but we enjoyed the food regardless. Some of their family gave them a hard time about it but I saw no problem with it.

I get it, I can’t stand vegan food but I do think it’s a one way street. I wouldn’t bring my own food to a wedding. I ate at a vegan wedding and was still hungry after so I just went to chick fil a. It wasn’t a big deal.

Oh the article that started the debate among the friends!

https://www.allure.com/story/vegan-wedding-guest-brought-own-food-shamed

1. No. The difference is that being an omnivore isn’t a dietary *restriction* . I choose to eat meat, but it doesn’t mean I *cant* it vegan— I’m perfectly capable of going and eating a vegan meal. I might want to go home and eat some meat, but I acknowledge I’ve been given an adequate meal.

2. I definitely think that’s rude. I would never go to someone’s dinner party and bring my own dinner because I didn’t like what the host was serving — I feel like people can agree on that, and this is the same just a larger scale. I also don’t get the aversion to vegan food and I feel like refusing to try it is closed minded and bringing your own meat-y meal is kind of taking a petty/pointless stand and making a spectacle.

There’s no reason, aside from allergies, intolerances, or religious restrictions, that someone wouldn’t be able to eat a vegan meal. I’ve never understood the big stink about it—it may not be your preference, but I promise you’ll survive a meal without meat, eggs, or dairy. As long as allergies and religious restrictions (kosher, halal, etc) are being considered, I don’t see any reason for guests to object.

And no matter what, it’s tacky to bring your own food to an event where the hosts are feeding you. The only exception I can see would be bringing snacks for a baby/toddler.

I understand where you are coming from, I would be stopping for food somewhere if I only had a vegan meal to eat and I would probably push my food around to make it look like I was eating because I probably wouldn't want what was in front of me. But I wouldn't bring tupperware of food because it was a vegan meal and I wanted something that was non-vegan.

Also re: #1, another reason I don’t think it works both ways and she wouldn’t be being rude, is depending on her reasons for veganism, it could be a blatant violation of her principles to serve meat. I’d honestly be uncomfortable if someone hosting me disregarded their personal ethics just to serve me . If they’re in the “meat is murder”
camp , it seems pretty sad that they’d have to do that murdering to “properly” host a party. Same for if it’s environmental reasons with meat=methane etc.

rankly, we could all use a meatless day!

Well this sounds like quite a pickle to be in! Hmm... I guess I would say that it is rude of the hosts of the wedding not to consider their non vegan friends. Just because you believe in xyz doesn’t mean everyone else does or has to. Depends on how you think about a wedding reception. Who is it for? The guests who have supported the married couple? The family? The married couple themselves? I think a good host should be accommodating to all.

Also, to every omnivore who says they don’t like vegan food: I promise you that you eat vegan food all the time, unless you’ve never had bread, rice, pasta, vegetables, beans, nuts, or fruit 😉 if you’ve ever had a peanut butter sandwich, an Oreo, or chips and salsa—you’ve eaten something vegan.

View Quoted Comment Not my chips and salsa 😱!!!! Lolllll jk. But in all seriousness thanks for the tip on the Oreo! I’m always trying to think of stuff that I can serve her when she’s over and didn’t know Oreos were vegan!

Though I understand the oddity, I wouldn't consider it 'rude' necessarily. Technically, anyone can eat vegan, and not everyone can eat meats/dairy. I personally wouldn't have a menu that was solely vegan food but then again it's her wedding so it's not my problem.

As far as bringing food, I agree with everyone else. I would never bring my own food to a wedding, I think that's almost worse than bringing your own food to a restaurant. Unless there are specific reasons (apart from dislike/disinterest) that you are unable to eat the food, I say at least try some. I have had delicious vegan meals since my sister and BIL are both vegans. Also, if it's awful or if you're worried it will be, just eat a lot ahead of time or afterwards.

If it's really a major concern, you could always gently talk to the bride or groom if you're close with her/him.

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I think when people say that, they are referring to strictly vegan meals they've had at vegan restaurants. I've been to 3 vegan restaurants, I've genuinely disliked all 3 meals (and not because I am an omnivore and went in with a bad attitude, I wanted to like all the food, I just couldn't). I know when I'm used to eating bread, rice, pasta, veggies, etc. they are 99% of the time cooked with butter, eggs, meat, etc. So I'm sure most people would be open to the vegan meal and hope it does taste good, they are probably just speaking from the few times they have eaten vegan meals and not been happy. But I'm sure from the right restaurants, vegan food can taste great (and hopefully no one is serving a peanut butter sandwich for their wedding dinner hahaha)!