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Is it rude to bring food to a vegan wedding if they are only serving vegan food?

Rachel, on October 30, 2019 at 4:48 PM

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Hello, There was a debate among some friends of mine. One of our friends is vegan and getting married and has said that the catering will be all vegan for the guests. So two questions then: 1. Is it rude of her to not give a non-vegan option even though we had to accommodate her dietary restrictions...

Hello,

There was a debate among some friends of mine. One of our friends is vegan and getting married and has said that the catering will be all vegan for the guests. So two questions then:

1. Is it rude of her to not give a non-vegan option even though we had to accommodate her dietary restrictions at our weddings? Or is it only a one way road on that issue (ie, its ok to accommodate a vegan and not force them to eat or starve as a guest but not ok to force a vegan to serve animal products at their wedding).

2. And would it be rude to bring our own food to the wedding then if it is strictly vegan?

This was all more for speculation and to get some outside perspectives. Wedding is forever away still, I'm just a bridesmaid of my friend so we are just mulling over things and issues that may come up.

EDIT:

I posted the link below as well, but the link that started the debate to begin with!

https://www.allure.com/story/vegan-wedding-guest-brought-own-food-shamed https://www.allure.com/story/vegan-wedding-guest-brought-own-food-shamed


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  • Jill
    Jill ·
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    Your FH getting too drunk was him being irresponsible and had nothing to do with the vegan food that was served. If he couldn't get enough food in his stomach to balance the buzz, then he should have stopped drinking.

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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    He ate quite a bit and thought he was fine. it just wasn't filling him up because there wasn't enough protein. It wasn't like he didn't eat at all and was completely sh** faced. He just got more intoxicated than he expected because of the food served. If you choose to have an open bar, these are just things you should consider in my opinion.

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  • karen
    Master October 2017
    karen ·
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    We attended a vegan wedding, where they did not warn anyone. We would have eaten before hand. It was awful

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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    I personally wouldn't bring in outside food. The bride in groom may get in trouble. I say eat at the wedding or try out the food they are providing for guest.

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  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
    Kk ·
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    This. If you think it's rude for your friends stick by their beliefs and not serve meat, don't attend the wedding.

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  • Angelica
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Angelica ·
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    Vegan food can be tasty. I wouldn't bring food from outside because that is just very tacky. Imagine how vegans feel at every event they attend that does not cater to them, which is almost every event lol. You'll survive one night of eating vegan food. Try to be a little open minded and you might find that the food can be good. if you don't like any of what they serve i'm sure they will have finger foods or desserts to fill up with. Just in case though you can eat a big meal right before the event.

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    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Brittany ·
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    I personally don’t think it is rude at all. The wedding and reception is about the bride and groom and what they choose to serve at their wedding is their choice. It is not mandatory to offer various options. I’m sure plenty of vegans have been to weddings where they are not accommodated and their is no vegan food. Being vegan is bigger than just a dietary restriction. It is a way of life. Most vegans are vegan for the animals and/or health reasons. If you are vegan for the animals the couple would not support the slaughtering of animals just so people who eat meat have an option. I don’t think it would kill anyone to not eat meat for one meal..doesn’t mean you can’t eat vegan food. I am not sure why someone would be so offended if meat wasn’t offered..? I also think it would be rude to bring your own food to a wedding.
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    Judith ·
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    Exactly, well put.
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