Is it rude to invite someone to your wedding without their spouse?

It is definitely poor taste to invite someone without their spouse or partner 98% of the time. They are a social unit and should be treated as such. That said, one of my mom's best friends is married but will likely not bring her husband to our wedding. At my sisters wedding, the married friend did not bring her husband. I would assume he isnt invited to our wedding either, but I am leaving it between my mom and her friend. I think Samantha makes a good point about age and crowd mattering a lot if it comes down to splitting married couples.

Unfortunately I probably wouldn’t attend if my spouse couldn’t come but who knows maybe they won’t mind

I had a friend who sent save the dates for her wedding. I was living with FH and had been with him for a significant time. My STD was addressed only to me. They weren't having a small wedding either. I didn't go and we don't speak anymore. (This was not due to my FH not being invited, we were already drifting apart before her wedding).

I could not imagine how I would feel if it was my husband. It's rude and while yes there is a point where older generations might just come alone, it's wrong to assume. I don't see the reason for the two friends of your moms to come if your guest list is this tight.

I feel the only reason to not invite a spouse/significant other is if there are problems either in the marriage or with the spouse/SO in question.

For example, we are not inviting my FH's Cousin's Fiance, due to the fact that his cousin and her fiance had broken up over the summer (I spent an entire day moving her out of their apartment together) and have information on their relationship where i don't think he is a very good person or good for her, when they got back together I informed her she needed to understand she was getting into a relationship with someone a large majority of her family doesn't accept and if she's OK with that then to do it but under no circumstance would he be invited to our wedding or other family members weddings (this was even before I was engaged) so she knew what she was doing and what the repercussions to it would be.

However, I was not invited to another cousin of my FH's wedding, his parents even asked if it was a mistake that I was not invited as we had been together for 2 years already and I had met this cousin several times and we were told that no, there was no mistake, I wasn't invited due to being "new" and not wanting to spend money on me. While his brother's girlfriend was invited and we all started dating the same exact time, and she had added 4 of her friends SO's last minute as they all started dating a month or so before the wedding. This still sits unwell with me, and I'm still a little annoyed by it.

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So I just have to ask.. what if your FH has his best friend that he wants to invite but his wife and you have had serious problems in the past and she and I could not be in a room together? How does that work? I know she would start drama at my wedding but this is my Fiances best friend.

I am in the same boat. I have no beef with two of my sisters’ spouse but I am no longer associating with my sisters. It’s a tough call. I will be sending out invitations to my adult nephews but not their mom. Lots of traumas and hardships but I’m trying to not link everyone under the chaotic people. However, I will not be inviting their spouses as well.

Okay so I’m remarried ( mother of 6 grown )
Recently, my Daughters BF created group chat for the planning of my daughter’s 21st birthday. My Husband and I thought How awesome! 👏 —-later that evening her BF post on group Chat that , My Husband was “ vetoed” from the Bday Dinner and stated that it was my daughters wishes that he was just a subordinate listening to the commanding officer. 👮🏼‍♀️
I’m starting to think there’s More to this … Apparently, his family is attending too even though they were Not in chat. 💬. My Husband hasn’t ever done anything disrespectful to them. NEVER! In Fact , he’s been a bigger fan of them than MOST of our other family members. Yea No Joke ! Her reason ( to My husband) was he might embarrass her around his family but they still loved him etc… BUT … Her reason to another family member was “ I just don’t like him “. Oh but he was good enough to provide a shelter, food , a car , braces , cell service, car insurance up until last month , $ for college, car taxes , good enough to make her a ball player ETC … Very Disappointed ! 😡. Shes Not the person that her Family thought she was. It seems she’s more worried about what Her BF’s 3 family members think .. I can not understand this …. Im NOT One that CARES what Others think 🤔. I’m Definitely Not Ashamed of who I am or Where I came from. Now , I feel like I was Only Invited for certain reasons. Idk By all means , We are a package deal. Sorry.
This was totally Disrespectful to Me , the one that raised her and my Husband, who has Always Supported her and been there for her. We haven’t done anything to deserve this. Was it Her BF’s Place to SAY who couldn’t come. ? And to Call 2 family members out on a group chat … really .. her family too not his …. It’s obvious when couples HIDE behind the other while Acting Overly Passive -aggressive. People please Avoid doing this ! There are Better ways to Handel things.
Invite Both UNLESS a prior authorization has been granted ! If you others to Respect You then get over yourself and Respect them !