Is it rude to invite the only non-bridesmaid to the bachelorette?

There's absolutely no rule that says that bachelorette party attendees are limited to your bridal party. You can invite whoever you want (as long as they are invited to the wedding, Lol). The only consideration to make is how many guests the host(s) of the party can afford and accommodate.

One of my friends went to the bachelorette i had and she wasn't in my bridal party either. but she also couldn't come to the wedding or my bridal shower so it was to have her at least join in on something wedding related

I think it’s all up to you. It is your wedding. I am only having my maid of honor, bridesmaids, mom, and soon to be mother in law at my bachelorette party.

I don't think it's rude! I wouldn't hand out bridesmaids gifts or discuss anything specific to the bridesmaids at the bachelorette party, so that the only non-bridesmaid doesn't feel left out, but I think it's totally fine to invite her!

Like Lisa said, I wouldn't do anything bridesmaid-specific at the bachelorette party if the non-bridesmaid is there, but it definitely isn't rude to invite her. Most of my bachelorette party attendees were actually non-party members and it was a lovely day!

You and your group know her best (I wouldn’t hesitate to seek advice from your bridesmaids here), but I would do it and I wouldn’t think twice if I was the “extra” girl. I’m just here for the parties anyway, haha.


There doesn’t have to be anything bridesmaid-y about a bachelorette party, so it’s not like something that would be in your face all weekend. Skip any tees or favors that draw attention to it (no “bride’s crew” gear etc), don’t give out bridesmaids gifts there, don’t use it as a time to organize details/plans for the big day, and with none of that, it’s just a party !

Nope, there will be three ladies at my bachelorette weekend that aren’t bridesmaids

Totally up to you! I had 4 girls at my bach who werent in my bridal party and it would not have been the same without them. Ask yourself if you will miss having this person around for the festivities and decide from there.

I didn’t have a bachelorette party (honestly didn’t even miss having one), but my thoughts are ask the others coming if you are all close to a point then invite her. Mainly ask whoever hosting it. If everyone says ok then ask her and see if she’s interested she may not want to come/unable to come.

It’s not rude at all! I invited outside my bridal party to my bachelorette party. And on the flip side, my friend had a smaller bachelorette party due to Covid, so it was just her bridesmaids and me, and I didn’t find it awkward or rude.

You may have 1 or 6 or more not in the bridal party, provided the hosts who are giving the bachelorette are interested. The women's bachelorette is based on the men's bachelor party which might be 2 or might be 40. It is not particularly a bridal party thing. Now if they are giving the party in your honor, it is up to them.If someone else is finding it, and you would like it, it is up to them. My bridal party was away my whole engagement. My
Bach was 12 plus me, none bridesmaids. Entirely up to who gives the party and what they want.
Sometimes there.ar limits, like 5 sit in a town car, you have 5 tickets to a show. Where having to upgreda Town car to full limo, or other cost, would make them say no. Otherwise, 1 person?

I met my best friend after she had already been engaged for several months, and there were only 8 months left til her wedding day. She had already picked her bridesmaids, but had me do a reading at her wedding and invited me for her bachelorette party which I attended gladly. I didn't feel offended and was just glad to be included in the celebration.

I do agree that you should check in with your bridesmaids to see how logistically complicated it might be to add people. On the one hand, it can be helpful to split the costs among more people - on the other hand, there are some numbers of people that are easier to accommodate than others. For example, if you have 7 people attending and add another to make an 8th, you probably don't have to meaningfully change things like car pooling arrangements or restaurant reservations. However, if you have 8 and are adding a 9th you may suddenly need a bigger table or an additional vehicle. Finding lodging can be more or less difficult as well - when we were planning a bach in Newport this summer, we learned that houses that can sleep 6 or less people are way easier to find and less expensive than ones that sleep 7+. So just be cognizant and make sure you check in with your hostesses before inviting the additional friend along!

You can invite whoever you want to your Bachelorette party whether they're part of the wedding or not! It's not rude at all to invite her. I invited several friends that weren't bridesmaid to my bach party.