Is it rude to not invite kids to our wedding ?

Kind of wanting the same advice! We want to. Only because it's family oriented. It's a day bringing two families together and you'll have all the people that will have to leave early to take their kids home... But on the other hand, having them run around is a little intimidating.... You could set up a small gaming area for them... or just have the parents understand that you would prefer only them.

Nope it's not rude.ETD: On the invite address it to mr and mrs x instead of mr and mrs and family. Once you make a discsion though stick to it and be prepared for some to ask you and or say that they might not be able to come without thier kids. If that's the case just tell them you are very sorry to hear that, that they will be missed at the wedding but unfortunately due to numbers you can only accommodate adults or if you decide family children. It is also ok to invite children in circles if you have some in the bridal party or nieces/nephews/your own etc.

We will be having lots of entrainment for the kids coloring activities for the smaller kids a game bus for the older kids.once it gets late in the day I have a play room for kids..all so the parents can have a good time and not worry about finding a babysitter or having to leave early..

We are not having kids at the wedding, it costs too much PP so we can't afford it. I don't think it's rude, i wish we could have them but it's way too expensive for them when they likely won't eat the food/ stick their fingers in the cake. Lol. We are sending STD early enough so they can make other arrangements

It's not rude to not invite kids.

You're not rude to not invite kids. Just don't put "adults only" on the invitations. It's rude to say who isn't invited.

FH and I are not doing children under 12, we do have a few exceptions for those coming out of state, which is two very small children but that's all. We didn't feel we should ask someone out of state to find a babysitter. Other than that no children, unless in the wedding party.

@Rachel that's actually more rude. Because that potential splits up families. What if someone has a 10 year old and a 13 year old? One gets to come and the other has to stay home due to some arbitrary cut-off.

If you're going to adopt a bright line rule, it should be over/under 18.

Or if you are doing a cut off, it's family kids only; or ring bearer/flower girl only; etc.

@coffeencolor we are lucky cause the kids in our families are either over 13 or under 10. My FMIL wanted an age so I wrote our all the ages of the kids in my family and thats how we choice 12. No family has a child over 12 and under 12. That's just in our families tho. We would re-evaluate if it was different. But I refuse to put "adults only" or "no children under 12" I will be addressing to either families or mr and Mrs x.

I'm having an "adults only" wedding in that we have some friends and family that have between 7-10 children which means that some families could take up a whole table.

We were very clear on our website, through word of mouth, through our addressing on the invites and GASP our invites that it was adults only.

We've had many friends and family with children say that they intend to use the wedding as a date night AND we've gotten a good response rate.

I recommend just sending save the dates so those with children can plan

It's not rude at all! I we are having an adults only wedding. It cost too much to feed children and they more than likely will not eat the food.

We made it clear adults only

It's not rude. We did invite kids but only family kids or those who were traveling for the wedding.

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And its a personal preference whether or not you have children at your wedding. Its rude to write it on the invitations (it should be made clear in how you address the invitations -- "Mr and Mrs Smith" rather than "The Smith Family"). You can also add a line on your RSVP card of "[number] of seats have been reserved in your honor. [blank] will be attending".

We're doing adults only, because to invite kids would boost my headcount by thirty or so, and I don't feel like having to watch parents corral their kids at my wedding. My guideline was that no one under 21 was invited, but you can change your cut off age.

Also, I know there are brides on here who opted to only allow kids that were in the wedding party, so that is an option as well.

My family has been hosting adult weddings since my Mom was a kid. Ours was 21 and up, which is what almost every wedding we've ever been invited to has been.

It's common for ceremonies to start in the 5-6:00 PM range, with receptions lasting until 11 PM -12:00 AM. Our toddler self-destructs around 8:00 PM. We'd never attend a wedding just to leave at 8:00 PM; we'd miss the entrée and dessert courses, the dessert//snack bar, 3 hours of dancing and open bar. That's so wasteful, for those that pay.

We didn't give a pass to younger family members or out of town kids. In most cases we weren't that close to them, or had never met them. I certainly wouldn't give a pass to the cousin I'd only met twice, whose family had a nanny. At least one family drove a full day each way to attend and sorted-out local childcare. We only had a 10% decline rate, on the Sunday night of a 3-day, summer holiday weekend.

Well I know everyone says that is rude to write "adults only" but I did wrote "adults only on small letters in the rsvp insert because I know my crowd and If I don't tell them straight up I will have a kindergarden in my wedding. So is totally normal to have a wedding without kids.

It's not rude as long as there are no children in the wedding party either. Any child in the wedding has to be invited to the reception.

It is not rude to exclude kids. It's OK for adults to be alone once in awhile.

We are doing an evening wedding and the reception is on a riverboat cruise. Also at $30/plate; it would not be practical or affordable for kids. We have our jr. Bridesmaid, flower girl and ring bearer. Other than that, no kids. Our guests will appreciate a night out without the kids too. Sending the save the dates early enough for them to find a sitter.

Its your wedding, you decide if you want kids there or not. If people don't like that their kids are not invited, then they don't have to come.