Is it rude to not invite kids to our wedding ?

Maria nailed it. You DO NOT put 'no kids' or 'adults only' on the invite. That's the rude thing. If your family has a problem with reading comprehension on the RSVPs, then you deal with it on a case by case basis.

You invite the exact people you want to come; I'd go as far as having the exact names on RSVPs too.

Bridal party kids and your own personal kids get invites. Everyone else is up to you.

Nope. It's y'alls day. If you don't want kids at your wedding, then by all means don't have kids. You may get some rude comments from guests about not being able to bring their kids, but if you want an adult celebration and you're not a fan of having small children running around, then don't do it.

My FH and I are having an adults only wedding, meaning 21 and up. I've been up front with family members who will have little ones that they need to look for childcare now. My venue considers anyone, no matter the age, a guest who can consume alcohol, so I'm not paying for wine/beer costs for a 4 year old.

It is not rude at all! The only kids that are invited to my wedding are the ones that are in it. Other than that, it's an adults only

It's not rude to have a child free wedding.

It's also not rude to have a cutoff age, no matter what that age is. Little Susy who is 5 doesn't get to do everything that her older brother who is 13 gets to do. She will survive.

I had a kid free wedding (other than the 4 in the wedding party)! No one complained to our faces (not that I cared), and even H's cousin who has a newborn came with her husband. Other couples left one spouse at home. It was GREAT!

Nope I put on the invitation no kids but the ones apart of the wedding

Kids do not care about going to a wedding

I put "Adults only event, no children please" on our invitations.

No shame, and i didn't want to tip toe around someone bringing their screaming kids to our wedding. Haha.

No it's not rude I'm not having kids at my wedding. It's just a preference.

We are having adults only unless you are our flower girl or our ring bearer. Have a bad feeling I'll get push back on that but I'll deal.

To everyone who says not to put "Adults only" on the invite, can someone explain why it is rude? I see that over and over on this forum, and no one can explain why. It's not like you're singling out an individual, you are singling out a category of people not to come. I'd be more concerned about people not familiar with this "Wedding Wire Etiquette" and bringing a kid anyway only for there not to be a place for them to sit. Isn't clarity better than assumption?

My Wedding is almost two years away but when creating the guest list we quickly agreed we could not invite child as I have too many little cousins. I have two small children in my ceremony and they will not be attending my ceremony. I do not know if this is a option for you but my venue is in a hotel. My niece is my flower girl so my sister asked her mother in law to watch her in the hotel room during the wedding so my sister can check on her as needed.

Not rude at all. We are having an adults only wedding. Kids do not belong at weddings.

As a guest we received an invitation to my husband's cousin's wedding that had "Only children over 14" which drew an obvious exclusion line in the family. My husband is the bride's godfather so I feel he should have been there but he didn't want to go since they didn't want our 10 year old son at the wedding. Ironically, all the kids under 14 in the family are well behaved and my husband's sister (who had a 15 year old at the time) is the most dramatic one. It did save us from making plans to travel out of state but wasn't handled correctly.

I don't think it's rude to only have your close nieces or nephews attend the wedding but not have distant relatives' kids or friends' kids. Ultimately it's the couples day and whatever they decide is right. Plus it's a free night out for the parents! Who doesn't love that?