Edit: You're all right. I'm an a*hole if I don't invite him.
Some backstory-I'm pretty close with my little sister and technically she is my MOH and other sis is matron of honor. I say technically because our wedding is SO casual. Little sis has been with her boyfriend on and off for years and although FH and I like him (only met him once), I don't necessarily think they are right for each other. And they have 2 kids together.
FH and I are having a super small wedding and found an AMAZING villa to have our nuptials and put up our families who are all coming from out of state for us. We haven't booked it yet but we know this is the place we want to get married and host our families. Originally we had about 35 people on our guest list but we are cutting it down to about 19 (7 of which are kids) in order to avoid the event fee which would set us over budget. Our wedding is super casual-no caterers, bartenders, DJ. Only a photographer. It's really going to be more of an upscale backyard bbq then an actual wedding. This Villa is seriously amazing AND walking distance to wineries so we want to make this work.
Am I being a jerk if I tell her her boyfriend isn't invited when everyone else's spouses are? To be honest, if we didn't have to worry about the event fee then he would be. The owner has been a dream to work with and has been very accommodating but I don't want to push it and keep asking for extras when we haven't even booked it yet.
