Is it rude to put this on your RSVP cards?

I just ordered mine last night and did this. I really didn't want to and thought maybe I will just write names on the RSVP, but then I figured that could get too messy and confusing, with plus 1s and 4 person families.

No definitly not rude. I read on plenty of wedding websites that it is totally acceptable to do this.

Just for good measure, I'll specify the amount and write their names too. FH says that he wouldn't be surprised if we got some crazy responses from his family. I'm so looking forward to this. LOL!

I did the number of seat reserved and

i even went farther and did ____ out of ____ will attend, i hope its not over kill

I actually like that @Surfergirl86, hopefully that will make everything simple for you when tallying guest totals.

We did it too! I hope it works! We did it for the same reason as you.

I don't think it's rude at all! I wished I had done that to help eliminate the guest or child questions.

Many WW brides do this, but I think it's unnecessary. Not sure if it's rude...but it's a little bit...idk..."tutorial" in nature.

I am also not a fan of the invitations that specify "Adults Only Reception." Like what, you're shooting porn that night?

Clearly both must be necessary because so many of you do it and think it's needed but personally, I've been to zillions of weddings, large and small, and never once have gotten (or needed) an invitation that told me how many people in my household were allowed to attend nor that I couldn't bring my (non-existent) children to the reception.

Don't do it. That's my advice. : )

I want to do this as well for the very reason you mentioned. There are definitely people who will try to write in more people than are specified on the invite, so I'm hoping this will help us avoid that.

If there's a high chance of people adding additional names, it's not rude and definitely necessary.

Using it or not really just depends on your crowd.

I don't think it's rude. It's pretty informative. But I haven't seen many designs like this either, and I thought that's what the names on the envelopes were for?

It is incredibly obnoxious that this is even an issue...but I do understand! I thought there was a bride on here recently that had a reply that actually changed that number of seats written in....the guest crossed it right out!

I hope it's not rude, because that is what I did!!

I did the same thing as surfergirl. We put ___ out of ___ will attend and then filled in the 2nd number. In my family, writing peoples names on the envelope doesn't mean anything to them. I invited my cousin and her 3 children and put each of their names on it but last weekend I saw her and she asked "are the kids invited?" Um, yes, they were named on the envelope and it said ___ out of 4 will attend...

Ohhhhh, I like that better @kala, __ out of __ will attend and filling in the second number. I might use that instead

We did it. Believe it or not people still added folls so I still had to make a few phone calls.

RSVP additions are out of control -- and I base that opinion on the threads that have been initiated by many brides on this forum. It isn't unusual to see "2 seats have been reserved in your honor" corrected by the guest to include a line through the "2" and a handwritten "3" in its place. I don't think it's rude at all. I think it's proactive.

I put it on mine. Eliminate ANY confusion.

We're putting "Two seats have been reserved for you" on our response cards as well.

I wrote the name in on mine and at the bottom filled in how many were invited I.e. Mr and Mrs Smith _of 2...rude or not I'm playing no games with these RSVPS.