Is it too early to ask my bridesmaids and mohs?

Most people on her would say wait as your relationships with these people may change, however I asked over a year in advance and I had no issues. I personally wanted to so they had the date blocked off and so they had time to plan for it financially. If you feel confident in the people you have chosen and don’t think your relationship with any of them would change then go for it!

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I read a lot where people say it’s too early so I was worried. One is my sister and the other will be my SIL and the others are my closest friends so I don’t think anything will change. I just know it’s a little bit of a time frame because we only hangout once every couple of months.

I asked my girls 14 months in advance because they all have very busy schedules and I wanted them to block off the date. A lot of people here will say not to ask so far in advance but I knew my relationships wouldn't change and I didn't have any issues.

You can ask them now, but you'll just have to accept that it's a commitment for you as well as them. If you grow apart, you can't "un-ask" or "fire" them next year or it will be the end of the relationship. So make sure they understand what they're saying yes to and won't cause problems down the line.

There are a number of posts from past brides via the search feature who said they regret asking the wrong people too early. That is why it is recommended to not ask anyone earlier than 6 months before the wedding. There is nothing they need to do beyond purchasing a dress and showing up on the wedding day to support you.

View Quoted Comment Well every single person in my wedding part is family and they do have things to do like showing up for bridal showers, bachelorette parties and I need help planning tbh I am doing this all by myself and like I said we all have busy schedules so it hard to plan hangouts with them.

View Quoted Comment Yes well they are pretty much all family at this point so I doubt we will grow apart, only 2 of them are not related and we’ve been friends for years.

View Quoted Comment The forums are vey helpful for planning. Your fiancé needs to help with planning, not the bridesmaids or parents. Pre wedding parties are common but always optional.

View Quoted Comment He is helping with planning but he honestly just agrees with what I think when I want actual opinions and advice because I’m indecisive. We do want pre wedding parties since we are young and don’t make a lot of money and are having a wedding registry so we can get our house set up.

I go engaged May 20th and asked mine 2 weeks later. I would have asked the week after, but we were traveling. I've had my MOH picked since college and we both live in the same city still and are very close. With that being said, relationships can change. I just had a friend get married who cut her MOH from the bridal party a week before the wedding due to relationships.

View Quoted Comment It’s nice to know other people asked early, thank you!

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If you need help planning let me know! I'd love to help. I love this stuff. I'm also getting married October 2023. Exact date is October 21 2023. I got engaged at the end of May and have most of the major vendors booked or have narrowed down just haven't contracted yet. Bridal expos can sometimes give you some ideas too. I am going to one next weekend with my mom, MOH, SIL and MIL as well as catering tasting, cake tasting, and dress shopping with them.

Just to echo what others have said, bridemaids are not obligated to host showers/bachelorette party. They are your most honored guests and their sole duty is to stand by your side in the dress of your choosing to support you on your most important day. If you have any other expectations, be sure you let you BMs know when you ask so they know what they're getting into. Chances are, if you're "young and don't make a lot of money" your BMs are in same boat.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow, I think we are getting married the same day/weekend! We aren’t sure of the date yet because my fiancé works shift and our venue we want won’t book over a year in advance, but we were shooting that date as well. That is so cool!

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I've never heard of a venue not booking past a year... but i hope you get the one you want. There are people from all over on wedding wire but i am in charlotte, NC. Even if you are not local, you can still reach out to me for help/advice!

View Quoted Comment I wasn’t meaning they should chip in and buy us gifts or anything like that I was wanting advice and support and I’m just excited to ask them is all and don’t want to ask to soon nor too late. and we will make sure not to put anything expensive on our wedding registry as we don’t expect anything like that just stuff to help us out. Nor do I expect some fancy bridal shower or bachelorette party just with friends and family who love and support us🥰

View Quoted Comment It’s cause it is a venue for government officials! Thanks!

My suggestion is to not ask BMs/MOH until you have an established venue/date as nothing is set/established until then.

I wouldn't do anything this early in the planning, for multiple reasons.

The people in your wedding party don't really have to get to know each other in order to attend the wedding.

No I don't think it's too early. I'm getting married around the same time you are. I'm already planning venue tours, budget and finalizing a venue and trying on my wedding dresses today!